Post # 1
….it’s one week til my shower….we have 25 adults confirmed coming to the shower. I caved in and checked my registry this weekend and saw that only 4 things had been bought between the two stores. My fiance and I set up the registry mainly with upgrade items since we already have created a home together and we have very little storage. i’m just a wee bit afraid that guests have either 1) ditched the registry all together and bought other stuff 2) printed the list from online, went into the store and ditched the registry system and now there is the chance for doubles or 3) everyone is opting for gift cards or cash (which, although definitely appreciated, looks a little foolish being center stage while I open 15+ cards).
Anyone experience this prior to their shower or have something similar happen at their shower?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp
Don’t worry – people usually buy these kind of things last minute! That’s seven.whole.days. of shopping left!
Post # 4
Gifts are gifts. Personally, as a guest, I’m always worried that someone’s going to get the same gift as me–and that theirs will be opened first! As a shower guest, they should be the one thinking about their gift, not you. Unlike with other parties, shower guests know they will be opened in front of everyone. You’re getting stuff, so you should be happy. If it’s not the right stuff, hopefully you can return it for what you would like. If it’s gift cards, sure it’s not as exciting, but it’s generous all the same.
If no one stuck to the registry, whatever. 🙂 You’re there to celebrate you getting married with the ladies in your life!
So, just prepare your "just opened a horrifying christmas gift from Great-Auntie Esther but have to look excited" face and off you go! 🙂
Post # 5
A lot of my shower gifts were actually bought the morning of! So don’t worry!
Post # 6
All the scenarios you mentioned are very likely, and like others said people always go shopping last minute. I’m sure next weekend you’ll be pleasantly surprised!
Post # 7
So I was actually freaking out about this just last week! Basically, no one had RSVP’ed and there were very few items bought off the registry. When I got to my shower (which happened on Saturday) there were about 20 people there and everyone had brought gifts. I found out that since we registered online, a lot of our gifts weren’t actually available in the stores. So only a couple of people bought off the online registry, and everyone who went into the store bought things that were similar to what was listed on our registry (a different brand, or slightly different sizes of bakeware, etc…).
So, if 25 people have already RSVP’ed, I would say try not to worry about it too much. People really do wait until the day of to buy your presents. Or they might not be able to buy the exact item on your registry, and instead pick something similar. Even if you get a lot of things that are not on your registry at all, you can always return them. Good luck and have a great time at your shower!
Post # 8
people buy this stuff last minute. Just wait a bit and maybe (if you don’t want to be surprised) check it the night before.
My shower is in 2 weeks and I went to change a few things on our registry last week and was shocked to see that some stuff was already bought! I was expecting people to wait till last minute (like I always do!)
Post # 9
I hate to say it, but I am usually a last minute gift purchaser! Especially if I plan to bring a gift to the shower, I usually get it a few days beforehand. Perhaps your guests are procrastinators like me! Don’t worry about duplicate gifts, though. You can always return them at the store and get other gifts.
Post # 10
I usually buy something on my way to the actual event! Yes, I’m that girl in Macy’s 2 hours before the wedding.
That being said, I hate when I get things off my registry! I’ve already received useful but HIDEOUSLY UGLY AND OUTDATED "vintage" (slash old) corningware and platters. And since nobody sells them anymore (hence vintage) i’m kind of stuck with them! Hopefully this isn’t the case with you =]. Maybe they’re all going to write checks and stuff. I say it’s too early to worry about it. The night before? Mmm yeah maybe.
Sometimes, too, people buy things in the store that are ON your registry, but don’t bother to go TO the registry check out area. So it doesn’t show up as a bought gift.
Post # 11
I agree with everyone-people really do this last minute. It’s definitely possible they got you off-registry items, but sometimes those have the most meaning. Otherwise, like midwestelle said: just put on your "I love it face"! It’ll be fun, no matter what you do receive. Plus, if they got you giftcards, you can just use them to buy the things you want off your registry. Enjoy the shower!
Post # 12
As a bridal shower guest, I usually don’t purchase the gift until the evening prior or morning of the shower. I know I was an eavesdropping bride, too. So I would hate for the bride to already know what’s she’s getting.
Post # 13
I was stressing over this just recently. Everyone bought their gifts last minute!!
Post # 14
I wouldn’t worry too much–lots of people are last minute shoppers. As far as the vintage platters..when I got married 15 years ago, I also received “lots” of stuff that couldn’t be returned and we were horrified by. This was before Craig’s list, mind you, so we packed it all up and stored it at my parents house. We then promptly forgot about the “ugly stuff”. Five moves (4 for us and 1 for my folks) and two kids later, we found the boxes and were actually delighted (really) to have “new” things. And the stuff (for the most part) look a lot less ugly now, don’t know if “the” style has returned or if my standards are lower 🙂