(Closed) I know this sounds a little greedy but…

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

Don’t worry – people usually buy these kind of things last minute!  That’s seven.whole.days. of shopping left!

Post # 4
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Gifts are gifts.  Personally, as a guest, I’m always worried that someone’s going to get the same gift as me–and that theirs will be opened first!  As a shower guest, they should be the one thinking about their gift, not you.  Unlike with other parties, shower guests know they will be opened in front of everyone.  You’re getting stuff, so you should be happy. If it’s not the right stuff, hopefully you can return it for what you would like.  If it’s gift cards, sure it’s not as exciting, but it’s generous all the same.

If no one stuck to the registry, whatever. 🙂 You’re there to celebrate you getting married with the ladies in your life!

So, just prepare your "just opened a horrifying christmas gift from Great-Auntie Esther but have to look excited" face and off you go! 🙂

Best wishes.

Post # 5
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

A lot of my shower gifts were actually bought the morning of! So don’t worry!

Post # 6
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

All the scenarios you mentioned are very likely, and like others said people always go shopping last minute.  I’m sure next weekend you’ll be pleasantly surprised!

Post # 7
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

So I was actually freaking out about this just last week!  Basically, no one had RSVP’ed and there were very few items bought off the registry.  When I got to my shower (which happened on Saturday) there were about 20 people there and everyone had brought gifts.  I found out that since we registered online, a lot of our gifts weren’t actually available in the stores.  So only a couple of people bought off the online registry, and everyone who went into the store bought things that were similar to what was listed on our registry (a different brand, or slightly different sizes of bakeware, etc…).   

So, if 25 people have already RSVP’ed, I would say try not to worry about it too much.  People really do wait until the day of to buy your presents.  Or they might not be able to buy the exact item on your registry, and instead pick something similar.  Even if you get a lot of things that are not on your registry at all, you can always return them.  Good luck and have a great time at your shower!

Post # 8
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

people buy this stuff last minute. Just wait a bit and maybe (if you don’t want to be surprised) check it the night before.

My shower is in 2 weeks and I went to change a few things on our registry last week and was shocked to see that some stuff was already bought! I was expecting people to wait till last minute (like I always do!)

Post # 9
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

I hate to say it, but I am usually a last minute gift purchaser!  Especially if I plan to bring a gift to the shower, I usually get it a few days beforehand.  Perhaps your guests are procrastinators like me!  Don’t worry about duplicate gifts, though.  You can always return them at the store and get other gifts.

Post # 10
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I usually buy something on my way to the actual event! Yes, I’m that girl in Macy’s 2 hours before the wedding.

That being said, I hate when I get things off my registry! I’ve already received useful but HIDEOUSLY UGLY AND OUTDATED "vintage" (slash old) corningware and platters. And since nobody sells them anymore (hence vintage) i’m kind of stuck with them! Hopefully this isn’t the case with you =]. Maybe they’re all going to write checks and stuff. I say it’s too early to worry about it. The night before? Mmm yeah maybe.

 Sometimes, too, people buy things in the store that are ON your registry, but don’t bother to go TO the registry check out area. So it doesn’t show up as a bought gift. 

Post # 11
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree with everyone-people really do this last minute.  It’s definitely possible they got you off-registry items, but sometimes those have the most meaning.  Otherwise, like midwestelle said: just put on your "I love it face"!  It’ll be fun, no matter what you do receive.  Plus, if they got you giftcards, you can just use them to buy the things you want off your registry.  Enjoy the shower!

Post # 12
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

As a bridal shower guest, I usually don’t purchase the gift until the evening prior or morning of the shower. I know I was an eavesdropping bride, too. So I would hate for the bride to already know what’s she’s getting.

Post # 13
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I was stressing over this just recently.  Everyone bought their gifts last minute!!

Post # 14
46 posts
  • Wedding: June 1995

I wouldn’t worry too much–lots of people are last minute shoppers.  As far as the vintage platters..when I got married 15 years ago, I also received “lots” of stuff that couldn’t be returned and we were horrified by.  This was before Craig’s list, mind you, so we packed it all up and stored it at my parents house.  We then promptly forgot about the “ugly stuff”.  Five moves (4 for us and 1 for my folks) and two kids later,  we found the boxes and were actually delighted (really) to have “new” things.  And the stuff (for the most part) look a lot less ugly now, don’t know if “the” style has returned or if my standards are lower 🙂 

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