(Closed) I know this sounds insensitive but I really need to vent! (TMI)

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry hun. That sounds like a tough situation, with him being sick and all. I’d just try to be patient because it seems like he’s got a lot going on. We’re not having sex until we get married because we had a pregnancy scare, so I feel your frustration. I’ve been working out a lot 😛 And not to be too personal, but what about taking care of yourself sometimes? Maybe that will take some of the pressure off and leave you feeling more satisfied. Also, what about oral sex or things of that nature? That’s what Fiance and I are doing currently and it’s pretty satisfying for us both 🙂

Post # 4
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It really seems like the two of you are so off base.  You don’t have to answer but what kind of health problems is he having?  Is it a matter of an unhealthy lifestyle and possibly him needing to lose weight?  If that’s the case, him getting in better shape will probably help with his sex drive.  This might not be a popular opinion but I think sex is a really important part of a relationship.

I’m kind of on the opposite side of the coin, I’m the one having problems making it difficult to have sex (and have switched BC to try and improve my sex drive).  I really hate being a once a weeker if that and want to improve my sex life as well!

Post # 7
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s so frustrating.  Personally, I don’t know if I could continue being disconnected my entire marriage.  I’m not saying anything about you though, just that my husband and I need to work on our own sex rut.

Post # 9
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

And I worry that if my health doesn’t get better, my husband could stray.  I’m hoping it might be finally better though.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Ms Scarlet: Oh no I don’t feel like it’s insensitive to me because I feel horrible about it too!  But I’ve tried as much as I can to get better and manage my condition because I don’t want to feel horrible all the time either.

Oh I don’t know if I could ever have an open marriage.  I think I would be too jealous.

Post # 14
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think you should bring it up right now.  I would try to get him to live a more healthy lifestyle (losing weight, getting off the cigarettes (which can cause problems with men getting erections)).  Plus losing weight should help with the diabetes and sleep apnea and exercise can strengthen bones.  Please try to avoid the snark, it would probably just hurt his feelings and make him less motivated.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I know how you feel! early in our relationship he would be too tired and I wouldn’t.

I have a very high sex drive too (I guess?! once a day.) And I ended up not saying anything about it and after one time two weeks went by with nothing and I just freaked out, I got mad and cried.. once I calmed down and we talked things out we agreed to do it more and more. And after awhile we “got our groove back” and do it almost daily now.

I made a deal with him anytime of day and we can change things up, different positions, i tried to make it exciting again and it was.

I think they can get into a habit of not doing it. But I can’t live like that!

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