- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
My fiancé and I have been engaged for a little bit over two months, but we have bought our engagement ring already in January. We bought it used from someone (it was a set with a wedding band), partly for financial reasons and partly for ideological reasons (we don’t believe in bad Karma, and both think that there is way too much waste going on in this world). Anyways, my fiancé spent what we both consider a significant amount on this ring set (1500$ plus shipping, insurance and resizing close to 1800$) and we both don’t make much money (He is a professional violinist and I am a perma-student…). Him spending that much on a ring to make me happy means the world to me, and I have no words to express how much gratitude I feel for the gesture.
The problem is that the longer I have the ring I just can’t seem to get used to its size.. It’s a 0.5 carat in a halo setting and I have relatively small fingers (4.0 finger size) so to me it looks HUGE! I have never had such a big ring before, and honestly noone from where I come from has these kind of rings and it makes me a little uncomfortable. I love it and it is beautiful but it just seems so big…It is also not the most practical setting since it is a cathedral setting and is really high (which we didnt know before buying it.. since we only saw some pictures online), and I am a medical student and need to work frequently in labs.
If I could just put a 0.20 carat solitaire on the wedding band (semi eternity band) that originally came with the engagement ring I would be perfectly happy. We use simple gold bands as wedding rings (also used) and this ring sort of “came with the deal” and has no real use.. The thing is really that since my fiancé spent so much on my engagement ring ring it would really break his heart not to see me wear it.. Also I am really opposed to spending even more to get a new diamond and probably having to get a completely new setting (I am no expert, but it seems to me that you can’t simply slap on some prongs on an existing wedding band..).
So I wonder, has anyone been in a similar situation? Did you get used to it after a while? Or any ideas of what I could do to avoid wasting a beautiful ring that does carry significant sentiment for me? (After all, this is the ring he proposed to me with…) I know people talk about “diamond shrinking”.. It just doesnt seem to work for me.. quite the opposite! The longer I have it, the larger it looks to me!
P.S. The uploader doesnt seem to work for me, so unless I figure out how to use it I unfortunately can’t attach a picture. 🙁