(Closed) I know what etiquette says, but…

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Forget etiquette, we also have that situation. We are just sending one because we do not want them to think they can have a +1. Plus, I’m sure they could care less whether or not they get their own invite. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

It’s polite to send all an invitation, but on the internal envelope, just write their name, no “and guest.”

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ok this is news to me!  You are supposed to send a separate invite to each adult even if they live together?  To anwser your question, I was planning to send invitation by household since it would be all one family if they live together.  In some cases they might have dates but my cousins may not because they are all a big family and I think they will be comfortable with out dates. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree with eliwhit, I think that they should each get their own invitation but not put the guest thing beside it, just their name.  I realize the situation but what I found is that most people who aren’t in a relationship won’t bring anyone anyways.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@asdf: My 25 year old sister was living at home the time i sent out invitations, i sent one to the house addressed to Mom, Dad and sister, there was no way i was going to send two to the same house!!! :p

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I did it based on if I thought they would care if they got an individual invitation or not.  You can straighten them out on plus 1’s when they RSVP, but if you don’t think they’ll care then its a waste of time, energy and paper 🙂

 

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i would just write all their names on the outer envelope in this case

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

we’re sending one invite for all guests that have the same address. screw etiquette.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s kind of a silly rule. I would do the same and combine :).

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think they should each get there own invite.  Just write only their name (nothing about a guest) on the outer envelope.  Plus, you can do something on your RSVP card like “X seats have been reserved in your honor” and their cards would just have X=1 (ie no guest).

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m with the OP. Sending that many individual invites is a waste of money and trees. They are boys. They won’t care. Etiquette be damned, it’s just a set of arbitrary rules!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i wouldn’t bother thats postage extra invites + extra cost for no reason. 

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