Post # 1
If you don’t want to read this i understand. I just need to vent because dh is still at work & i need a little advice. As some of you know, I had a family issue with my 13 yo cousin…Well today everything blew up…well kinda..just like some of you said it would..
long story short. I seen over the internet that cousin has said… tired of this child ass girl (so called family) Bitch your 20 being childish, grow the fuck up act your age. (she’s talking about me) i havent talked to her since the argument we had monday..or tuesday. i didn’t even put anything out on the internet..(well besides telling you guys about it. i stayed to my household which is me and my husband)
I said nothing to her, (not even a text lol.) i called her mom and told her what happend and she really didn’t say anything..
I went to another family member and told her what happened & all she had to say was she’s 13. Gosh lee, i understand that. Pretty much anything I tried to say and explained she brushed it off and started defending cousin. Can i get a little “im sorry” She just put me out their on the internet.. I was honestly in tears only because i hate arguing. there’s much more to this convo. i had with one of my family members but i’ll leave it as is…
My family won’t even talk to me. figures right? i guess you can say i set myself up for this?
So the advice i need is….I was thinking of just cutting my moms whole side of the family out of the picture for my event besides my mom. (yes it seems pretty drastic and yes i’m still upset)…and just invite my father’s side of the family. That’s how originally it was supposed to be but i opened my big mouth.
Bee’s i know this family “fued” isn’t going to end even when i apologized because this family holds grudges.
should i just not worry about mom’s side and worry about dad’s side?
sorry i just don’t know what to do..
Post # 3
I think what you are suggesting is really immature. You’re willing to destroy your family over what a 13-year-old has said? That, to me, says that you aren’t mature enough to handle adult events/choices….like a marriage.
Post # 5
I think you need to let it go. 13 year old girls are notoriously nasty due to puberty. It’s just the way they are. You are the adult, ignore her and move on.
Post # 7
She’s 13. You’re 20. Let it go.
Shes nasty. She blasted you on the internet. So what?
Ignore it. Move on. You have allready taken her out of the wedding. Don’t distroy what family bonds you do have over something she won’t remember in 5 years.
Post # 8
You’re 20 and fighting with a 13 year old, yet think you are mature enough for marriage?
You both sound 13, and that’s only ok for one of you.
Post # 9
I agree with PPs. You are blowing this way out of proportion. Firstly she’s your cousin, not your sister. Second, she’s 13 and you’re 20. Hell this sounds like a spat between high school friends. Drop it and forget about it.
Post # 10
While I think the PP’s are really nasty in their comments I think you need to sleep on it, and you will probably come to realize that when you aren’t so worked up over it you don’t really want to cut your whole family out. It’s a decision you made while emotional. Don’t act on it just yet. Teenage girls are nasty. I know my parents thought I was! Good luck!
Post # 11
anything that anyone says, happens on facebook, twitter, internet, blogs, or anything in that vein is insignificant. add that she is 13 and it’s even more insignificant. i’d not say another word and just do your thing.
Post # 12
While I don’t agree with the WAY the other PPs have said things, I do agree that you may be overreacting a bit…please remember that she is only 13 and as a teacher, I can assure you that MOST 13 year old girls can be nasty, but it’s because that’s what they are: girls. You are a woman and I’m sure capable of making good decisions. You’ve already taken her out of the wedding, but don’t punish the majority of your family for some stupid comments a snot-nosed brat has made about you to strangers. I am sure you will regret it if you do that. If you think it might help, try talking to her and telling her that comments can be hurtful because you are family and if she can’t grasp that, which chances are she won’t, then just move on and ignore it. Focus on what’s really important like marrying the man you love. Good luck hun!
Post # 13
Heck, I was a bitch when I was 13. (And I consider myself a pretty darn caring and nice adult!)
You need to be the adult here, OP.
Post # 14
What you’re suggesting would only escalate the situation. Don’t do it.
Post # 15
Honestly OP, I think you should take her advice and start acting like an adult. She’s 13, you’re 20. I agree she’s being a little brat and shouldn’t be acting like that, but there’s nothing you can do so you should really just let it go.
Post # 16
Ignore her. She’s acting like a child, because she is a child. Cutting the whole side of the famly out over 13 year old seems very drastic. Just let it go.