(Closed) I know you probably don't want to hear it (vent)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think what you are suggesting is really immature. You’re willing to destroy your family over what a 13-year-old has said? That, to me, says that you aren’t mature enough to handle adult events/choices….like a marriage.

Post # 5
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1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you need to let it go. 13 year old girls are notoriously nasty due to puberty. It’s just the way they are. You are the adult, ignore her and move on.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

+1 on all of those PPs

Post # 7
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2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

She’s 13. You’re 20. Let it go. 

Shes nasty. She blasted you on the internet.  So what? 

Ignore it. Move on. You have allready taken her out of the wedding. Don’t distroy what family bonds you do have over something she won’t remember in 5 years.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

You’re 20 and fighting with a 13 year old, yet think you are mature enough for marriage?

 

You both sound 13, and that’s only ok for one of you.

Post # 9
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I agree with PPs. You are blowing this way out of proportion. Firstly she’s your cousin, not your sister. Second, she’s 13 and you’re 20. Hell this sounds like a spat between high school friends. Drop it and forget about it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

While I think the PP’s are really nasty in their comments I think you need to sleep on it, and you will probably come to realize that when you aren’t so worked up over it you don’t really want to cut your whole family out. It’s a decision you made while emotional. Don’t act on it just yet. Teenage girls are nasty. I know my parents thought I was! Good luck!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

anything that anyone says, happens on facebook, twitter, internet, blogs, or anything in that vein is insignificant.  add that she is 13 and it’s even more insignificant.  i’d not say another word and just do your thing. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

While I don’t agree with the WAY the other PPs have said things, I do agree that you may be overreacting a bit…please remember that she is only 13 and as a teacher, I can assure you that MOST 13 year old girls can be nasty, but it’s because that’s what they are: girls. You are a woman and I’m sure capable of making good decisions. You’ve already taken her out of the wedding, but don’t punish the majority of your family for some stupid comments a snot-nosed brat has made about you to strangers. I am sure you will regret it if you do that. If you think it might help, try talking to her and telling her that comments can be hurtful because you are family and if she can’t grasp that, which chances are she won’t, then just move on and ignore it. Focus on what’s really important like marrying the man you love. Good luck hun!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Heck, I was a bitch when I was 13. (And I consider myself a pretty darn caring and nice adult!)

You need to be the adult here, OP.

Post # 14
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What you’re suggesting would only escalate the situation.  Don’t do it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly OP, I think you should take her advice and start acting like an adult.  She’s 13, you’re 20.  I agree she’s being a little brat and shouldn’t be acting like that, but there’s nothing you can do so you should really just let it go.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ignore her. She’s acting like a child, because she is a child. Cutting the whole side of the famly out over 13 year old seems very drastic. Just let it go. 

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