Post # 1
I know you won’t approve, bee, but sometimes I just feel so far apart from my SO (long distance atm after living together for a year) and I know we won’t be getting engaged any time soon, maybe not for 2 or more years, and sometimes I just wish I had something real and physical and special that could remind me that he does love me and dream of marrying me too. So…. yes, I am all for promise rings. I know, I know, everyone hates them, everyone things they are for scchool kids, everyone doesn’t see the point of getting one when you could get engaged instead. I know. Trust me, I know. But I just want one! It would make me feel more secure, less alone, I think. And that feeling is important because without it I wind up resenting my SO for the circumstances that led to us living apart now.
I’d like to get something as a promise to him and then if he wants to reciprocate he can. So the question is, does anyone have any suggestions of what I could get? Obviously, a promise ring is an option. Or a promise necklace/bracelet? Or watch. Something more creative? I’d like it to be something for everyday use, like a ring, that serves as a constant reminder. The main reason I didn’t wanna pick an actual ring is I don’t know his finger size.
Post # 3
Girl, I thought you were going to say something much worse than a promise ring! I think promise rings are great- I had one before we got engaged. And it can be anything you want it to be! Just something you pick together, or he picks by himself…it’ll be sentimental 🙂
Post # 4
I totally get the sentiment behind it. I love wearing a piece of jewelry that reminds me how much Fiance loves me. He bought me a gorgeous opal necklace the year before we got engaged, and it had a really similar meaning behind it.
Post # 5
My SO and I have a pair of “best friends” necklaces. Not your ordinary $10 plastic necklaces, mind you–they’re silver representations of the RNA bases uracil and adenine. We’re both biology nerds so it was perfect, and his is on a nice manly rope. Maybe you could look at something like that? If you’ve never looked at Etsy, they’ve got all kinds of jewellery there which might help you out.
Post # 6
When I first read the title I thought of something much more drastic haha.
You could get him a watch engraved with a nice sentiment?
Post # 7
I actually think promise rings are a lovely idea when you know that engagement is awhile away, but you want to be with that person in the long run. If you want something creative what about doing a beautiful charm bracelet? He could add a charm for each anniversary you two are together.
Post # 8
HAHA I thought this entry was going to be more juicy!!
I think people’s opinions of the p-rings depend a lot on where they are in life and in their relationship. i think these are sweet, especially if you are younger or in an LDR or not able to get married yet because of schooling, etc. I think someone older, dating for a very long time, established jobs etc might not be such a fan.
Personally, if my boyfriend gave me a promise ring I’d be a bit upset, but I’m 25 and he’s THIRTY ONE, we both have decent jobs and we’ve been together for several years..we’ve talked extensively about getting engaged in probably the next year. sooo if he gave me a ring that wasn’t an ERING we’d be in for a long conversation :o)
One of my friends got a p-ring from her boyfriend like 3 months before they got engaged. He was having some money problems at the time and got it to tide her over and she was thrilled. She’s 26 and he’s 28. I’d say it’s probably a good idea to talk to your Boyfriend or Best Friend about it so it’s not a suprise. Also some guys are not big jewelry wearers so I think a watch is a cool idea. Good luck!
Post # 9
My Fiance got me a ring each christmas. Something small.
I proposed to him with a nice watch. That he picked out. And I doubt that he’ll wear forever a wedding ring. He hates jewelery.
And I’ve gotten him nice wallets too.
Good luck with picking something JUST right!
Post # 10
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a promise ring at all.
Granted, if you’re older than college age, you’re probably going to get some funny looks if you CALL IT a promise ring, but I think lots of people have a token or piece of jewelry that conveys the same message.
Post # 11
SO and I are in an LDR largely because I’m still in school. He gave my an “I Love You”/promise/pre-engagement ring for our one year anniversary. He wanted me to have something that reminded me of him and our relationship.
I love my ring for all the reasons you want one, so I TOTALLY approve!!!
SO is not into wallets but uses a money clip. I got him a silver money clip with his initials engraved on it. The funny thing is, he told me he loves anything I get him or that he bought when I was with him because it reminds him of me. He said he uses the water bottle I got him every day! (He frequents the gym and drinks a lot of water daily.)
For Christmas, I want to get him something for his desk or a nice pen. . .he’s a bit of a work-a-holic, and having something that reminds him of us would likely cheer him up when he’s putting in long hours.
Another idea is to base the gift off of what he does for a living. If he’s in the medical field, you could buy him a stethocope. If he’s a businessman, a business card holder.
Post # 12
Me and SO saw matching rings that had a great star wars refrence. One Said “I love you” and the other said “I know”
I saud those would be our wedding rings LOL
Something similar that showed off something that represented your special bond might be just the thing <3
Post # 13
@burnie217: I think you’re very right about promise rings not being right for everyone. SO and I talked about it before, and he asked how I felt about it. Given our circumstances, I thought it was a lovely idea. Even though I was 25 and he was 34, we were/are in an LDR, and I was/am still a student.
Communication is key!
Post # 14
I thought this was going to be a lot worse – I almost didn’t open it up for fear of drama lol!!
I think promise rings are very sweet, and not always childish (well unless you’re children hehe). Whatever you choose, it should be something he picks for you, or you two pick together, whether it’s a ring, bracelet, necklace, or watch. (Or anything else I might have missed!)
Post # 15
For goodness sake – nothing wrong with a promise ring. Who cares what people think. Just call it a “ring” and you know in your heart that it’s a promise. I’m old as dirt and my SO gave me one. Long story, but it doesn’t matter how it happened. I don’t think of it really as anything other than a beautiful ring and I don’t advertise to the outside world that he called it a “promisory” ring.
Who cares. Labels mean nothing.
Post # 16
@KatyElle: I agree- if you are getting it for him- get a watch or something you can engrave. I am in the camp of why get a promise ring when you both can get engaged- but at the end of the day, it is whatever helps YOU deal with the waiting. Good luck! Make sure to tell us how you gave it to him.