(Closed) I know you're the bride and you want us to look ugly…

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you style your bridesmaids to make them less attractive so that you stand out as the bride!???

    Yes! It's my big day- I don't want to share the spotlight!

    No...atleast not consciously ;)

    No!

    Sort of- I want them all to look like identicle (hair/makeup/dress)think twins/triplets/quadruplets

  • Post # 47
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Eh?

    I love my BMs. I want them to look

    a) like themselves

    b) however they want to look

    Post # 48
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, I wouldn’t do that to my BM’s. I let them all choose the dress they like most, with the cut they like, shoes they like, etc, as long as they were all in the same color range. 

    I do worry, though, about one of them in particular looking way too beautiful (it’s not her fault, haha). I love her do death but I do envy her a little, as when we go anywhere (especially out to a bar or something), everyone’s eyes go straight to her. I know I shouldn’t worry bc it’s my wedding day, and everyone *should* be looking at me, but she looks amazing in her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress 😛

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think if the BMs look bad, it makes the bride look bad. “She made them wear that?!?! It looks horrible on half of them!” “What was the bride thinking picking that hairstyle for all of them?!” 

    Post # 50
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I want my bridesmaids to feel and look fabulous! i would never want them to feel ugly. thats so mean.

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think you’d have to be pretty insecure and petty to do that to someone. Whenever my day comes, I’m actually toying with the idea of basing my colors off dresses my girls already own and feel happy in. Win-win. Besides, why would you want someone to look frumpy/weird/unhappy/uncomfortale in your wedding photos? That just seems so counter-intuitive.

    Post # 52
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My sisters and niece are my bridemaids so I wouldn’t want them to look ugly.  I let them do whatever they want.  I even let them have a say in the color of the dresses. // However, I get dibs on hairstyles.  We all wanted a similar updo.  lol //  My sister’s friend had them in orange dresses (which is the bride’s prerogative) and told them not to wear heels because she couldn’t wear them herself.  My sister is shorter than the bride and the Maid/Matron of Honor by 5 inches and still couldn’t wear heels!

    Post # 53
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think the problem is that everyone’s opinion on what is a nice dress differs. If you and your girls are happy in your dresses then who cares what anyone else thinks. As for colour tho, that is non-negoitable, my colours are eggplant purple, navy blue and cream, they aren’t exactly hideous colours.

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We have a small party consisting of a bridesman and a groomsmaid. When we went shopping with the groomsmaid, we found two dresses we all loved. My fiance loved one more, while the groomsmaid liked it a lot. The other, she LOVED to the point that she’s excited to wear a dress. My fiance loved it as well, just not as much as the firs one. We went with the one she loved because we want her to feel beautiful and happy in it. 

    The way I see it, if you’re worried about sharing the spotlight with other women on your wedding day, don’t have a bridal party. Otherwise, don’t make them look like fairyland nightmare rejects just to make yourself look better. If your fiance is checking anyone but you out on that day, you shouldn’t be marrying him in the first place. =)

    Post # 55
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I want to be more woowy then them. so I m saying I’m the only one who can have curls in m hair- but then my Maid/Matron of Honor uploaded a picture of her wilth curled hair and I about died she is beautiful and I want her to look that beautiful in pictures to come down the road so I might have them all get better!

    Post # 56
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am a Bad Bride, I would love to make my Bridesmaids, but it won’t happen b/c my sister is mind blowingly beautiful and is a Professional Model. She is 5’10 and is super thin but definatly healthy.

    I think my biggest fear is that all of my guests will wonder what the groom see’s in me. lol!

     

    Post # 57
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @serenitea:  I’m not going to have bridesmaids but no I wouldn’t deliberately put them in ugly dresses or anything.. they’re my friends and I want them to be comfortable and for the photos not to look hideous.

    I guess I am secure enough in my looks to know that I would stand out.

    Post # 58
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m only having a Maid/Matron of Honor, and she’s a knockout. I’m tall, but she’s taller. I’m thin enough, but she’s way thinner. Long hair is important to me, but I just did a major chop to get rid of damage for good, and hers is long and flowy. If if was up to me, I would never intentionally put her in something uglier, but I can’t guarantee that subconsciously I wouldn’t hope for a more level playing field. My solution is letting her choose everything herself in any 1 of 3 color options I gave her (purple, silver, or black). I want her to look and feel her best, because she’s my friend, and I honestly believe she’d want the same for me. 

    Post # 59
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would never want them to look ugly! I let them choose their own dresses specifically because I wanted them to choose a style they knew looked good on them. They know their body & their style a whole lot better than I do!

    Post # 60
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    THIS IS NOT ONLY A SPECIAL DAY FOR ME BUT IT IS FOR MY ENTIRE BRIDAL PARTY. THEY ARE A REFLECTIN OF ME AND I WOULD NEVER WANT THEM TO LOOK BAD OR UNATTRACTIVE. AS A FORMER BRIDESMAID MYSELF, I LOOK FORWARD TO DRESSING UP AND BEING PRETTY (NOT THAT I’M NOT PRETTY EVERYDAY) BUT WEDDING DAY IS A DAY FOR EVERYONE TO FEEL EXTRA SPECIAL AND BE EXTRA PRETTY OR HANDSOME. IN ADDITION, I (THE BRIDE) WILL STAND OUT REGARDLESS, JUST BECAUSE ITS MY DAY!!!!

     

     

    MY BRIDESMAID DRESS. IT IS SIMPLY GORGEOUS AND I WOULD GLADLY TO WEAR THIS!!

    Post # 61
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    definitely not!

    1) i want them to feel good/have fun and even if that weren’t true,

    2) who has to look at the pictures for the rest of their life? lol

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