(Closed) I know you're the bride and you want us to look ugly…

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you style your bridesmaids to make them less attractive so that you stand out as the bride!???

    Yes! It's my big day- I don't want to share the spotlight!

    No...atleast not consciously ;)


    Sort of- I want them all to look like identicle (hair/makeup/dress)think twins/triplets/quadruplets

  • Post # 77
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I want my bridesmaids to be pretty because they are going to be in the pictures that I’ll have to look at forever.  I actually am sorta jealous of their dresses and might borrow one of them for something one day because its’ a really pretty floor length chiffon dress…  I do want all of their hair and jewelry the same but the dresses are identical color, identical material, same designer but three slightly different tops.  It doesn’t make them ugly.  Ever seen ‘How I met your mother’ – it makes them look hotter according to Barney!

    Post # 78
    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I want them to look as identical as possible,  but that does not mean I “sort of ” want them to look ugly!!! I would want them dressed in the same beautiful dress, with the same/similar beuatiful makeup look, and similar beautiful hair.

    Post # 79
    29 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My girls are going to look AWESOME and by proxy I’ll look awesome, too! I’m a costume designer so it’s already against my nature to put anything in front of an audience that I don’t think is amazing, but also they’re some of my favorite people in the world so why would I want them to feel ugly??

    I did tease them a bit about me being the “midget bride” since I’m 5’3″, the next shortest girl is 5’6″, and all the rest are 5’8″ or taller… and one of my BMs said “No! We’ll be your Amazon warrior protectors!!” and I loved that so much I almost cried right there at work 🙂

    Post # 80
    881 posts
    Busy bee

    Personally, I want all my ladies to look good too! Of course we chose their dresses to be the same fabric (chiffon) as my dress. But I want them all to look and feel gorgeous that day. I wouldn’t put them in an ugly dress or anything so I stood out…that’s just insecure and weird IMO. Plus wouldn’t you want everyone to look awesome in the photos that will last the rest of your life? 

    Post # 81
    801 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

    I think ugly bridesmaids dresses reflect poorly on the bride. I usually assume that she chose the dress, and if she purposefully chose ugly dresses, I’d probably think that she just had bad taste. There’s no reason the bride and her BMs can’t all look beautiful! And as the bride, she’ll always be the most beautiful. 🙂

    Post # 82
    4437 posts
    Honey bee

    Heck no! I wanted my ladies looking SMOKIN hot! Why would I want ugly eyesores in my wedding pictures?

    Post # 83
    310 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wouldn’t want them to look bad because I will have those wedding pictures forever. I want them to feel pretty and comfortable so they can enjoy themselves all night long!

    Post # 84
    557 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I want my bridesmaids to all look gorgeous! It makes for better pictures 🙂 haha

    Post # 85
    409 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Haha I feel your friend – I was just in a wedding and was in a “shamrock” green dress. The dress was probably one of the worst things I have ever worn (had aplunging sweatheart and I have pretty large girls and they didn’t want to stay in there at all, not to mention it had generally  unflattering fit) either way, was my friends day, so I bit my tounge and smiled. But I was generally uncomfortable all day. 


    I wanted my bridesmaids to be as beautiful as possible because they are my dearest friends – I hope they liked theIr dresses!

    Post # 86
    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    was a bridesmaid in a wedding once and I felt ugly in a green dress..I swore I would never want my bms to feel like I did.

    I ant my bms to look gorgeous to show I have great taste. but  in the end, it is all about what the bride chooses such as style/color..not everyone’s taste is great–and the bride I was a bridesmaid to, had no taste–hence! the ugly green dress!

    Post # 87
    1043 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I had a rather large bridal party when I got married.  It wasn’t popular for the Bridesmaid or Best Man to wear different but coordinating dresses – I wish I had thought of that.  Anyway, what we did was all of us (me and BM) went to the store together.  I said that you (the BM) have to decide on a dress and majority rules.  I don’t know if that was the right way to handle it, but I didn’t know a better way.  I had no colors in mind; I gave them no limitations.

    After about an hour of the Bridesmaid or Best Man trying on different dresses, they found one believe it or not, that they loved.  It was a Jim Hjelm beautiful chiffon dress and it was perfect for a summer wedding.  There was one Bridesmaid or Best Man that was on the fence a bit, but she agreed.  Once they got their dresses, they really were happy (the dresses were so pretty with summer tans!)  Even the one that wasn’t sure loved the dress once she had it.

    I also did not give any restrictions on hair or shoes.  I wanted them to look and feel their best.  I hated the way I looked – I think my Bridesmaid or Best Man looked so much better than me!

    Post # 88
    4835 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Luckily for me I’m not that insecure! Someone who would think that way is not the kind of girl that I’d want to be close friends with.

    Post # 89
    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Nope. I want my BMs to look beautiful and feel beautiful. I think a bride always stands out anyway (unless she’s wearing the same dress as the BMs..lol) and the bridesmaids are a reflection of the bride and her style so I can’t imagine trying to make them look ugly! Besides I want them to have a fabulous day and remember it with the fondest of memories.

    Post # 90
    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’m just having my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor so I said she can wear whatever she bl*dy well wants – no colour or silhouette restrictions.  

    She is already second guessing the dress we bought for her now – that it doesn’t “match” my dress – and I said to my mum the other day “oh I really could care less if it matches my dress, I just want her to feel good”.  The dress she picked is nothing like what I’d have picked if I was choosing the dress, but it looks gorgeous on her.

    Post # 91
    3354 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 1900

    I had my bridesmaids each choose their own style dress, whichever they felt comfortable in and felt fabulous in. (They had to wear a particular color and have it tailored to the knee, otherwise the style was completely up to each girl’s decision.)

    I also told each of them to choose their own hairstyles, again whichever makes them feel gorgeous.

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