(Closed) I know you're the bride and you want us to look ugly…

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you style your bridesmaids to make them less attractive so that you stand out as the bride!???

    Yes! It's my big day- I don't want to share the spotlight!

    No...atleast not consciously ;)


    Sort of- I want them all to look like identicle (hair/makeup/dress)think twins/triplets/quadruplets

  • Post # 92
    21 posts
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @serenitea:  I had the exact problem you did, most bridesmaids dresses are not flattering….I think its because the dresses all have to be the same so they are generic and therefore are not tailored to individual bodies and thats the rub.

    I do makeup for designers, weddings, photographers and I LOVE fashion, I have habitually been accused of being too dressy and I own a makeup chest that IS a mans 5 foot tall tool box….I LIVE for fashion. Iam also aware of a nasty little thing called Facebook! This is where most photos go….like it or not! I DO NOT want my bridesmaids to be ugly or frumpy. Its why I looked through 2 different states, and 5 counties and scoured the net to find the perfect dresses.

    That said, everyones tastes are different and with respect to that, what one bride thinks is beautiful, another will find hideous. I’am sure that if I asked, there would be a handful of girls that thought my choices were a fashion faux pas (but what do they know! Tongue Out haha). The dresses I picked, I still have some small issues with but I cannot find better at a less than exorbitant price, as it is, the dresses are being paid for by me and will have to double as bridesmaids gifts because they are $300 a peice! I’am on a budget and my Maid/Matron of Honor cant afford the dresses and I don’t feel right about making the other pay for hers so we all shook hands and agreed. They will pay for their shoes and I may swing for some jewelry but it will be small.

    I think the selections are woefully inadequate for dresses because I had an easier time finding MY dress than the BM’s….sad! That aside, both my girls are gorgeous, one looks like a hazel eyed betty paige and the other has a models build and cheek bones (and shes had TWO kids!) I’am not threatened by either, I picked them because they are closest to me but it was also convenient that they happen to be very beautiful.

    Post # 93
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We’re going with coordinated-mismatched, too, and I think everyone looks great.  Happy bridesmaids = unstressed bride.

    @serenitea:  My girls tried on both of these!  Two of them ended up picking the 2nd one, the other two picked the longer version of your 1st dress.  I had bridesmaids dancing in the salon (this despite the awful customer service) they were sooo happy.

    Post # 94
    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I had them pick out their dresses so they would feel comfortable and beautiful in what they wore on the day. I just told them the color and fabric I wanted. It worked out really well. They are buying the dress and so I want them to be comofrtable with their choice.

    Post # 95
    1180 posts
    Bumble bee

    Two of my three girls are professional models. I couldn’t make them look ugly if I tried, and I dont want to! Luckily, the other Bridesmaid or Best Man is my twin. We all have about the same body types, so I’m going to pick a dress I look good in and its a pretty safe bet they will look great in it too.

    Post # 96
    2304 posts
    Buzzing bee

    No, I chose the length, fabric and color. They chose something that fit their shape and personality. However, that may sound like I chose practically everything…or a potentially ugly color. But I chose black and chiffon and everyone looked beautiful!


    Post # 97
    3997 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    No way! If they feel comfortable and confident it’ll show through in the photos (: I don’t want terrible pictures or unhappy friends.

    Post # 98
    2203 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Having the bridesmaids look like shit would reflect badly upon me, not them. If I stuck them in a ugly dress that says I have bad taste not them, correct? I have never heard of anyone making a Bridesmaid or Best Man look bad on purpose, but yeah some people really have have bad taste 

    Post # 99
    3525 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I would never try to make them look ugly! But I do want them to look similar. There’s only two of them (my sister and my FSIL) and they have similar body structure/size and hair/skin coloring, so they should look good in the same dresses. If they can come up with a dress between themselves that fits my criteria (long, same color, both in the same dress) and I don’t hate it, then I don’t mind. I won’t force them to wear something they hate. 

    Post # 100
    2128 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I wanted my bridesmaids to be beautiful?? It never occured to me that ANYONE could outshine the bride on her day. All eyes were on me that entire night.

    Post # 101
    1490 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    No, that’s ridiculous.  Everyone is coming to see me get married and I’ll be in a fantastic white dress- I’m pretty sure no one will be able to ‘top’ that.  I want my Maid/Matron of Honor to look beautiful.

    Post # 102
    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m paying thousands of dollars for my wedding pictures, and I plan on having the bridesmaids in more than just a few of the pictures…so no, I don’t want them to look bad. I want them to look amazing. That being said, I’m going to pick out one dress for them all to wear (probably) – my BMs all have similar coloring (dark hair and light eyes) and builds, and there’s only three of them. I’m just not a huge fan of the mix-and-match look. I might change my mind, but for now that’s my plan.

    Post # 103
    1094 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Absolutely not! My bridesmaids all want to match each other. I have told them MULTIPLE times that I want to be the prettiest woman in the room and all of them are a close second. I want them to wear something as flattering as possible and for them to feel beautiful!

    Post # 104
    1 posts

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    serenitea:  never mind the bridesmaids, I find it  intersting how some of the most gorgeous girls don’t even come close to being a gorgous bride.  They don’t work with their assests.  For example hair and I don’t undertand the craze with shwoing off ugly arms.  I personally think that if your arms are not toned then you shouldn’t be sporting a dress that shows your arms.  FYI: I am adding sleeves to my dress becuase my arms are not toned.  I think it would be a big fat lie to say that every bride is beautiful becuase that is not true.  some woman need to understand less is more. 

    Post # 105
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Never and I think that’s such bullshit.

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