Post # 1
I’m lucky enough to be the guest of honor at two bridal showers. One was hosted by my Maid/Matron of Honor in my hometown, and included a few high school friends, family, and friends of my mom’s. The other will be combined with a Bachelorette party, and will be with my bridesmaids, Future Sister-In-Law, and girlfriends. I’m worried I might have blundered in not sending a shower invite for shower 1 (which already happened) to my Future Mother-In-Law. She does not live in the area, and I knew she had plans to visit my Future Sister-In-Law across the country the same weekend. She made a huge effort to come out for our engagement party, they are hosting a rehearsal dinner, and she’s doing so much for the wedding, that I did not want her to feel obligated to send ANOTHER gift, or to change her plans just to attend the shower (which I honestly think she would have considered). When I saw her at Christmas I mentioned the shower I’d had and could sense that she was surprised/hurt? that she wasn’t included. Did I do the right thing? Should I send her some sort of apology? Just leave it alone?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t think it’s that big of a deal- technically, the hostess is the one that dictates the number of guests she can attend to. Perhaps next time mention you missed her at it, but understood she was away?
Who knows, maybe she looked pained bc she just realized she needs to throw you one too. 😉
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Were you the one in charge of inviting, or was your MOH? Generally, the bride isn’t really in charge of invitations, so it wouldn’t exactly be completely your fault if she wasn’t invited. I would talk to her and explain your thinking and apologize if she’s offended.
Post # 5
if it was me, i would just shoot her a nice card and say you have been thinking of her and the bridal shower and you realize she didtnt get an invite and how you hope it hasnt upset her and list some of the reasons. say you are so happy to soon be her DIL blah blah blah and you hope that she isnt upset with the invitation indiscretion
basically grovel a bit – you havent done too much wrong but i can understand she has felt left out so to be upfront about it will be a nice way to bury it so no hard feelings in future
Post # 6
I’m with Eloping – write a note and grovel a bit. You never know how long she might hold on to feeling insulted (even if it wasnt your fault!) and its soo not worth it.
Post # 7
I’m with eloping too! Better to do damage control for damage that wasn’t your fault than to let it fester.
Post # 8
Yes, grovel away although understand she might feel hurt for a while. I get that, because I would probably feel the same. You had good reasons for not including her but she doesn’t know that – you took the choice to attend away from her by not inviting her and that could sting a bit. I’m sure she’ll get over it, as long as she’s invited to lots of other things and you explain your reasons 🙂
Post # 9
I think I would send some type of appreciation/thank you card for her support and help and then maybe add that you didn’t want to inconvenience her because of the trip? Or call her and tell her this? Don’t know what kind of relationship you have with her, but hopefully she understands that you had good intentions.
Post # 10
I think a nice, heartfelt card would be great, but you might also say that you would love to carve some time out to spend just with her. It sounds like you aren’t in the same city, so perhaps in the week leading up to the wedding you and she can have some “girl time” together. I think she would appreciate that.
Post # 11
If you live near her, you might want to invite her to a special lunch with just the two of you. I am sure that would more than make up for it.