I left: the end to that horrid saga and some reflection

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
59 posts
Worker bee

Glad you’re out of an unhappy relationship and are feeling lighter already.  Enjoy your new place!

Post # 4
1903 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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phillygirl93 :  Congrats lady!! Give yourself time to breath and live life on your own anyhow before dating anyone else. You’ll get your apartment fully together in no time. Otherwise, make your list of things and palces you want to see now that you are free! 

Way to set some standards already for any future dating. Stick to them! Know your good on your own and deserve somone who wants to stand with you, not in front of you till you “behave”…. wth is that. lmao, he actualy told you to “behave”… lol. 

Rock on lady! 

Post # 5
1082 posts
Bumble bee

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phillygirl93 :  I love this. You were unhappy and instead of just trekking along, accepting a fate well within your control, you took steps to secure your happiness. Wishing you the best moving forward! 

Post # 7
706 posts
Busy bee

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phillygirl93 :  Thanks for the update, I’d been wondering about you.

I’m so happy for you that you stuck to your plan and went. The behaving and good girl thing made me want to puke. Best of luck for the future. Can’t wait til you’re posting about the fabulous guy you’re engaged to!

Post # 9
190 posts
Blushing bee

Glad you had a plan and are staying positive! Enjoy living just for yourself!

Post # 10
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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phillygirl93 :  f*ck yes to this story. 



Post # 11
5217 posts
Bee Keeper

“Speaking of breaking it off- no more living with unmarried partners. It’s not worth the hassle and it doesn’t reveal very much. excSO and I were great at living together that wasn’t the issue in our relationship. I now have ammunition against anyone who comes at me with “But phillygirl93, you have to live with someone to know them”- which is what I fell for before moving in with ex-SO.”

This is exactly my opinion. Marriage is about a LOT more than just living with a person, so living together won’t tell me anything I really want to know. Trust, commitment, and honesty can not be evaluated by living with someone, and in the end those characteristics matter a lot more than if a person is messy. Too many women fall for this and wind up in stagnant relationships because the guy is totally comfortable with the way things are and doesn’t see the need for marriage. Hell no, I am not playing house with you while you decide if I’m worthy.

I’m glad you left. It sounds like you learned a few things along the way.

Post # 12
11339 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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phillygirl93 :  

There is something precious about the home you make for yourself after you have exited a toxic relationship. It can be an apartment, a cottage, a penthouse, a dump, or a mansion. It doesn’t matter.  It will always hold a special place in your heart.

So, decorate away!  Make it truly your own.  Buy what you can as you can. Celebrate your new adventure!

Have you considered having a house warming party?

Post # 14
7062 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I remember you! Congratulations! And your timing is an excellent fuck you. He sounds insufferable. I hope things go well in therapy and that this coming year is a productive and healing one for you.

If I were you, I’d make some goals for the coming year to help stay focused on the future you’re creating. And definitely keep us posted in your progress!

Post # 15
2201 posts
Buzzing bee

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phillygirl93 :  I am so, so proud of you ❤️❤️❤️ I hope therapy helps you move past this horrible experience. Best wishes, girl!


ETA: superfuck-him regarding that comment about “behaving”. ugh. I hope he’s miserable.

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