- 2 years ago
I am phillygirl93, the super mega b*tch who is leaving her boyfriend for not proposing. Anyway, I am now phillygirl93, the girl who LEFT her boyfriend for not proposing. Woohoo!
Some thoughts as I exited:
-The real decline of the relationship started after the second or third broken timeline, I started to not trust him. Very bad. In the future, if this happens, I will just break it off than.
-Speaking of breaking it off- no more living with unmarried partners. It’s not worth the hassle and it doesn’t reveal very much. excSO and I were great at living together that wasn’t the issue in our relationship. I now have ammunition against anyone who comes at me with “But phillygirl93, you have to live with someone to know them”- which is what I fell for before moving in with ex-SO.
-He was legitimately shocked when I broke up with him. Like, he had never considered that I’d actually leave. I’m a little insulted- did he think I had no self respect or options?
Our breakup was Saturday, he made some kind of comment about how if I “behaved” (vomit), I might get a proposal because I’d been “good” (double triple super vomit) lately. Anyway, I just couldn’t take it anymore and broke up with him. I had already secured a place and lease had started- I just was going to try to move my furniture via moving truck. Well that didn’t really work out- as predicted, when broken up with, he started telling me I couldn’t take the furniture that it was his. Whatever fine, I had saved for that circumstance- I suspected ex-SO would get weird and possesive like that. I packed up my ish- don’t really have a lot and drove over to the new place. I’m currently sleeping on a sofa I bought at Ikea- not the best but miles better than dealing with ex-so. I’ll work up to buying furniture again. I did take all my kitchen stuff (he didn’t want it) and TV- thank god. I actually would’ve fought for that, my kitchen stuff is my baby and hello it was always my TV.
-I’m also laden with commitment and trust issues. Time for some therapy LOL (I know it’s not funny- It’s a coping thing).
– I still have a reasonable chunk of change left- I found a kick a– apartment for a good price and can live with not having furniture for a while. I have a sofa, a dining table and bookshelf. I also have my TV and a media stand. A bed will happen eventually.
I’m free y’all. If it’s ok I’ll still hang around here, I like lurking and hearing other people’s happier stories. Thank you for all the support through this very trying time.