I left: the end to that horrid saga and some reflection

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Thanks for the update, I’ve been following your story. I hope you will find serenity now 🙂 

Yay for redecorating lol 

Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

Congrats on your new found freedom! I’m sure it’s a very liberating experience. And I second what you said about living together. Nothing earth shattering was revealed in the 5 months we lived together before marriage, and here were are almost 13 years later and guess what??? Still nothing new. I think that’s an excuse for a lot of (not all) people. If I had to do it over I would’ve waited until after the wedding, but our circumstances were a little different. Bottom line, my parents moved out of state and I had nowhere to live because I couldn’t afford my own place. So it was either move 8 hours away with my family or move in with my now husband. 

Regardless, rock on! Happy for you! 

Post # 33
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Newbee

Amazing!! You go girl! Just reading your post made me feel your exhilirating freedom!! Super excited to see what’s in store for your future! ^^

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Another bee chiming in to say, good on you.  Also, agreeing with the living together thing.  I did live with my husband before marriage but I learned the most about him while we were living 6,635 miles apart and from traveling together. That’s when I learned how he communicated,  how he managed stress, how he handled his anger, how he felt about marriage and kids, etc.  The things I learned from living together were so small in comparison.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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phillygirl93 :  I am so very happy for you.   What a piece of sh1t he is.  Good riddance! I agree with everything you said regarding living with someone.  I hope your story will encourage  women in similar situations to take charge of their life as you have.  Congrats!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We are so here to support you!

Post # 37
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638 posts
Busy bee

Congrats! How was he able to get away with all the furniture? Just out of curiosity bc in my situation I have records of me purchasing/paying off the furniture so if we broke up there’s no way he’d keep it. 

Post # 39
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1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I wish I had been a fly on the wall for that whole conversation!

BTW-Delco girl here, maybe we’re close?

Post # 40
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32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It sounds like you were right, and that if you had been honest with him earlier he would have made your remaining time living with him incredibly uncomfortable.

 

I think you did the right thing. Congratulations on getting yourself out of that situation.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee

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phillygirl93 : Congratulations! Enjoy your freedom, there’s really nothing like it after a toxic relationship. Stay strong Bee!

 

Look for a Habitat for Humanity Restore store near you. We’ve found some awesome pieces at ours.

Post # 42
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230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

He sounds like real peach. I’m so glad you finally left!

Post # 43
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Bumble bee

well done you! onto a bigger and brighter future 🙂 enjoy your couch xx

Post # 44
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607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

Omg I’m so mad he demanded to keep stuff. I’ve done the same leaving live in boyfriends though.. keep it! 

Freedom!!!! I’m so proud of you!!!

Just his reaction to like wtf!?!?! “good girl”? grossssss

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Breathe! Enjoy being yourself! Not much furniture around for now, means you have space to dance.

You did the right thing.

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