I left: the end to that horrid saga and some reflection

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 47
268 posts
Helper bee

Wow, you rock. This is amazing. Congratulations and enjoy !

Post # 48
3109 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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phillygirl93 :  if you’re really in the philly area I have a mattress you can have. Perfect condition- 4 years old and was in our guest room. Just have to get it from Newtown in Bucks. Moving in 2 weeks so if you can get before then it would be great! What else do you need?

Post # 51
9022 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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phillygirl93 :  Yay! Well done you. It’s nice you will stick around too. I did after I dumped my ex after waiting for ages and years on I am engaged and wondering why I ever dated such a dick for so long ha ha. Enjoy your pad, enhjoy your own space and time and being free. I know how hard it is but how good it feels. Well done you!!!

Post # 52
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - Dracut, Massachusetts

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phillygirl93 :  lol ew “if only you behaved”. I would have vomited too. You go girl!!

This makes me think about my past situation with my ex. Good riddance. I finally realized how freaking toxic he was to me once I was out of there. It feels like there is a weight lifted off your chest right?! Like I just woke up and was like dude, I’m happy.. I’m free… I can do whatever the hell I want to do now!! I’m going to get a tattoo I’ve always wanted. I started to eat better and meal prep, I’m down 7 lbs!! Traveling now that I don’t have someone breathing down my neck about saving every freaking penny I have!! Live your best life! It’s too short to take advantage and be miserable with crappy boyfriends.

Post # 53
3041 posts
Sugar bee

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phillygirl93 :  Girl I am so incredibly happy for you! I think in a few months time you’re going to realize 100% you made the right decision!!

Post # 54
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Finger Lakes, NY

YES!! This is fantastic to see! I’m so happy you found your moment and got out. What a toxic piece of garbage he was.

Post # 56
11346 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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phillygirl93 :  

You know, I am typically a firm believer in honesty, and I had my doubts about your plan.  But, you have proven me wrong and I’m glad that you did.

He sounds like a bigger arsehole than I had envisioned, and quite toxic for you. When you have to save yourself, you do what you need to do. It’s the same with women escaping abusive relationships. 

I can see the wisdom in your strategy now.  And how lucky are you, to have one of those exes who makes it so easy to remember why you dumped him.

Post # 57
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Just want to say Ive been in your shoes. It sucks. But you are doing the right thing!!

You deserve to be with someone who WANTS to be with you and commit. Getting away from someone who cant/wont give you what you need is a great first step to finding what makes you happy.

All the best to you love <3

Post # 58
1722 posts
Bumble bee

I have to say I love how supportive eveyone is on these boards. Especially the woman who offered her a mattress in her area. Really awesome to see all the support. 

Really glad you did what you had to do in this situation to protect yourself. You were right, it had to be this way to make sure you had what you needed. Lots of hugs! 

Post # 59
332 posts
Helper bee


I hope you get to furnish your apartment soon and make it all your own!


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