Post # 1
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Newbee
Ok Ladies, I need help. I’m feeling a little insecure about my dress choice. Or about how I look in it. I don’t really know. I just feel like I look frumpy. My wedding isn’t until June, so I have some time to tone my arms and back, I just feel like that’s not enough.
I think I’m a little overwhelmed because I see my dress often, and I’ve seen a lot of body shapes in it. I just feel like I look HUGE in it. Maybe I should see about alterations or something? Or maybe I just picked the wrong dress? I hope not…
Any thoughts? Are others struggling with this? Perhaps it’s just nerves? I really don’t want to do the whole dress-regret thing, but it’s creeping on me at the moment.
PS – Please excuse my awkward “I-don’t-know-what-to-do-with-my-arms” pose.
Thanks!
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
I think once you add jewelry (a statement necklace or something), the veil, and maybe a belt or sometihng, the dress will really come alive!
Post # 4
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Worker bee
I think you look lovely in that dress! If you are feeling really self conscious you can do things like adding a champagne sash around the waist to define it more or adding a cap sleeve which will give the appearance of slimming but I honestly think it would be fine as is.
Don’t compare yourself to models- remember they aren’t human lol
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
My friend is your same shape and size and she had the same freakout. Then, she added straps and it was MUCH better. It’s a beautiful dress, it’s just that for both of you, the straight across strapless look isn’t super flattering. It makes anyone who isn’t a 0 look top-heavy. I suggest either straps (even just something thin and dainty) or having the neckline made into a bit of a sweetheart shape.
Post # 6
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Newbee
@sherryberry: You know, I was thinking about a sweetheart. I’ve seen someone alter this same dress in the neckline and it was pretty. Perhaps I’ll reconsider the idea. Thank you!
Post # 7
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Honey bee
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Snowbeast, stoppppppp!!!
Agreed, you need a big statement necklace! I think the dress was a good choice for your shape actually. It doesn’t squeeze anywhere and looks elegant!
Post # 8
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Honey bee
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@modernriot: Yes, sweethearting would look good!!!! So flattering on every shape.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
I think the dress just needs a little tweaking, add a nice sash and some jewelry and it will all come together!!!
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
@Fizzybee: Oh! I like the idea about cap sleeves.
Or maybe changing it to sweetheart may help. But yes I agree that it needs something, but I dont HATE the dress. I think its very nice.
Post # 11
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Newbee
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
You’ve got a great waist line, so I think you should try and draw more attention to that with a sash (as others have said).
Having said that, you seem pretty similar to me – there’s a fantastic shape in there, it just needs more definition! I think you’ve made a great dress choice, but if you feel it would look better if you toned up more, then do it! Don’t do it for the dress or the wedding, but for your health. That’s how I’m losing weight – not for my wedding, but for the rest of my life.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
I love it. I think with a bit of work you can make it even more stunning. Cap sleaves and a sparkly belt would really dress it up.
You look beautiful though!
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
It looks lovely and I agree w/ the folks above regarding the sash I also think it needs some color or bling but maybe that is just my style.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
@sherryberry:
@modernriot: this is exactly what I was going to say. the neckline and waistband create a really strong horizontal shape that isn’t very flattering. straps and a sweetheart neckline would balance it out with some verticals.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
I think the only thing that it MIGHT need is a sweetheart neckline. It is usually more flattering on most women. But it is still beautiful this way too. Either way.
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