(Closed) I lost 16 lbs and no one noticed (including me)

posted 5 years ago in Fitness
Post # 2
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Helper bee

You probably just didn’t really notice because you’re with your body all the time so you don’t know really notice small changes.  As for other people not noticing, it’s probably just being polite.  Also, you’re 5’6 and weighed 147 pounds… that’s not big at all!  Probably no one even figured you’d need to lose weight or anything 🙂  But good for you on getting to your goals!

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Helper bee

Yes. That’s about how much I lost this summer too, and no one really notices. I weigh quite a bit more, however, so I still have a ways to go. I can see a difference in my stomach, and I feel better, so I will keep going, and you should too, or go on maintenance, whatever makes you feel the happiest!

Congrats on the weight loss! I know how much work and effort goes into it, and I’m proud of you!

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Busy bee

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Giraffes:  We seem simular!! I have just lost about 20ibs, currently around the 127ibs mark. Some people have noticed.. others not so much. Fiance is totally impressed, he gave me a piggy back and he was like ‘i can just feel the weight loss all over’ haha It feels SO good to feel healthy, and my clothes fit differently or are too big! My legs / arms had no muscle and my calves were just flabby but now it’s so different having definition.
I’m 5’6 and the weight was evenly spread so it wasn’t like i drastically lost from a certain area. I recently found a picture of me on holiday in feb 2014 and was MORTIFIED. I never realised how untoned and kinda chunky i looked. I tried on the same bikini bottoms and they fell off! Try and look back at older pictures and you will definitely see a difference! I have saved that pic – and taken a new one of now and makes me so proud when i look at it! Also, find some old clothes I bet they will be too big for you!

I’m now in the maintaining stage, i have found it hard to relax on diet / calorie count and exercising as much as i was. I’m trying to not cut back on the food i want, but have it in moderation and keep up the running and strengthen my core. Do you have any tips?

Well done to you, don’t feel defeated that everyone hasn’t noticed, it’s how you feel and you know your body better than anyone else. Focus on the changes you have gone through whilst loosing the weight, your fitness and health will be better as well as outside changes. I bet you look great bee!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

They might have noticed but might be really polite and not be saying anything

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Sea Cider

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Giraffes:  I’ve dropped from 144 to 131. . .and I’m 5’3″.

Have I noticed? Big, fat (hahaha) NOPE.

Has my Fiance noticed? (Probably, but she also thought I was losing weight when I was gaining it, so I think she’s just to in love to help but think the best).

It only started to sink in when my family complimented my figure at my cousin’s wedding this past weekend. . .and even then, I still feel like I have 11 more pounds to go.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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Giraffes:  YES! I was expecting more comments on my weight loss too lmbo. My friends that see me often didn’t really say anything and people that saw me before and after my 15 lb weightloss didn’t comment either! So you know what I did I seriously  asked my close friends “do I look like I lost weight?” They all said “yes, but you weren’t big to begin with, so….”. And that’s when I got it, I was the only one that thought I needed to lose weight so they may have noticed the loss but they didn’t feel the urge to make a big deal out of it and say “omg you look great!” because I looked great before the weight loss  (hahaha well that’s the story I tell myself anyway lol). To date I’ve loss 19 lbs and I still don’t get comments but I don’t care anymore because I can really tell by the way my clothes fit that I’ve loss a significant amount of weight, I can fit some size 4 pants now.

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Buzzing Beekeeper

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havenspartyof2:  Ditto from another 5’3″ bee.

It usually takes me 20-25 pounds down for people to start noticing. It’s frustrating, but whatevs. When I went on my last serious diet, I specifically told all my friends/coworkers hoping it would help me stick to it and I did notice that they started complimenting me earlier on. To this day, not sure if they actually noticed anything or were just saying that since they knew I was trying to lose weight, but I’m not complaining either way!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I’m down 30. I’m only 5′ tall, so even 10 pounds was noticeable. The thing is, people talk about it like I’ve lost 100! It goes beyond complimenting the weight loss into talking about how big I was before. Really?! I didn’t know I was that fat looking. I kinda wish they wouldn’t say anything if they think fat shaming my former body is a compliment. I lost weight for health reasons. I was totally okay with how I looked before >:o

Good job on the weight loss, OP. I’m sure you look great. I bet you looked great before though. I’m starting to think people only compliment weight loss so they can remind you that you no longer look like the stay puft marshmallow man.

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MrsWe:  ITA! See my post. I wrote it before even reading yours. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

Start lifting weights. Heavy ones. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

6 lbs is noticeable on me. 16 is A major change! 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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Giraffes:  I started out around 170 or 180 pounds (I’m like 5’4 and change), and at first I thought if I lost 40 pounds I’d be in good shape. When I lost 30 pounds, I didn’t like how I looked. So then I figured… 130 is a good weight. Once I got to 130, I didn’t look how I thought I’d look. It took me getting down to about 105ish before I was… okay with how I looked, but then I needed more definition. I realized I didn’t like that I was just… mushy, or skinny fat, despite the scale telling me how much I weighed. So I had to add muscle. I’m around 115 now, but my pants still fit about the same as they did as when I was 105… (except for my bum, because I had no bum and I did a lot of work to gain some muscle there for shape, so they’re more snug there but that’s obviously fine for me). 

Everyone carries weight differently. Some people carry weight more obviously and right under the skin (subcutaneous fat), and some more between organs (visceral fat), and some people have more muscle than others (which weighs more than fat per square inch), or sometimes larger bone structures (which matters significantly less than most people think), etc. Your 130lbs will look different from someone else’s 130lbs, even if you’re both 5’6. 

So… You might be 130 and 5’6 but have kind of a skinny fat issue, and you’d benefit from losing a bit more “mush” and adding on some healthy muscle. You may be the same weight on the scale or even more, but you’ll look much different. Try not to go by the scale so much. Try and go by the way your pants fit you, or yes… start measuring your waist and thighs and hips and any trouble areas you’re concerned about.

It’s almost impossible for most people to see less than 5lbs (of course it depends on your current stature), and generally 10lbs is one clothing-size difference. So most people own’t notice 15lbs because it’s (typically) not even two clothing sizes… especially if they see you every day. And the taller you are, the more your fat is distributed, so a person who is 5’6 who loses 15lbs might look like they lost 7, and a person who is 5’1 and loses 15lbs might look like they lost 22. So don’t be discouraged! It’s totally normal =) 

My advice is definitely start lifting weights. Get together with someone you know who lifts weights, or head to a gym and get a trainer for a while to show you how, take some weight lifting classes, or do some research, etc… But definitely start lifting weight; that will almost definitely get you closer to what you’re looking for when you look in the mirror. Whatever you do, make SURE your form is correct! It’s really best to get with someone who really knows what they’re doing, if at all possible. Otherwise, watch videos online. Form is essential to success and also to not hurting yourself.  

 

DON’T BE DISCOURAGED. It’s totally okay, and totally normal. You’re doing great =)

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Bumble bee
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Giraffes:  I am so short at five feet that I noticed pretty quickly when I had lost the first ten pounds of my 22 pounds. I lost it over the winter and early spring and I could tell because some of my clothes were swimming on me and others fit the way they should. But I was so surprised that nobody else noticed. Until last week. One of my exes — we are still friends so I see him fairly often —suddenly looked at me mid-conversation and out of the blue said, You have lost weight! I was wearing a somewhat short skirt and a favorite summer blouse that I often wear. You know, Bees, I was starting to wonder if I was imagining my weight loss since I don’t have a scale lol and haven’t gone shopping in months. 🙂

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Sugar bee
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Giraffes:  congratulations on your weight loss! People don’t make a point of mentioning other’s weight as it’s rude. If I gained 16lbs I sure wouldn’t want everyone telling me, lol! It’s really personal and I think it’s a shame to be looking at others so closely that you’re just looking for changes in their body. No-one needs to be more self-conscious! If you want to be encouraged then maybe find one person to tell who supports you and who can pat you on the back and say ‘well done’. Or just tell us!

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