(Closed) I lost my job today…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
5001 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Start applying for jobs like crazy! I don’t see how your job has anything to do with him proposing though. You may need to wait a bit longer to pay for a wedding or something, but I don’t think he would need to postpone proposing.

Post # 4
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why would he not want to marry you if you were laid off? That doesn’t make sense. Marriage = for better or for worse. Anyone can lose their job….if that changes how he feels about you, maybe him not proposing would be a blessing in disguise?


Post # 7
5662 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@DreamingofDiamonds:  your SO definitely shouldn’t be basing wether he wants to marry you on wether you have a job or not! I would hope and assume that he loves you regardlwhat and whatever his plan is has nothing to do with your employment stAtus. That being said you are not worthless without a job, a job doesn’t define a human it’s just a job. You’re a person without it with feelings and worth! You’ll find something new im sure and whatever that is it will be meant to be the way it turns out! Keep your head up!

Post # 9
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@DreamingofDiamonds:  we just went through this…Fi was laid off 3 days before Christmas.  It all worked out.  Three months later he found an even betterjob and is way happier. It will work out, keep your chin up and smile!!

Post # 10
2497 posts
Buzzing bee

@DreamingofDiamonds:  I am so sorry to hear the bad news! That is such a tough pill to swallow.


I don’t know your SO well enough to know if he will still propose (on schedule) or not, but I hope your job loss doesn’t affect it. I think it would be a different story if he hadn’t bought the ring yet, or if you were already engaged and setting a date for your wedding. Those things involve money, but getting a proposal at this point doesn’t. If he’s sure about marrying you, then a job loss is something you both face together regardless of your marital status.


Keep your chin up! I know this is so disappointing but don’t let this moment define you. You have not failed because you lost your job. You are simply encountering a hurdle, and you will find a way to get over it. All you need right now is a hug and a can-do attitude! Procure the first from your Fiance (I’d give one to you if I could) and find the second within you. You can do it!

Post # 11
4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s normal for your self esteem to take a hit when you lose a job if you’re used to working!

But his love for you will not change, and I definitely think he will still propose!

Post # 12
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Oh my, I am sorry to hear you’re losing your full time job. It’s great they are keeping you on part-time until you find something. It helps to have something, for sure. Just hold tight and let him be the sweet, supportive SO he’s being. Maybe go ahead and do something to express your appreciation for his support.

Hang in there. You’ll get through this!

Post # 13
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t mean to be a Debbie Downer, but my proposal has been postponed because I didn’t get a job for this year (went back to school and hope to start next year). It was going to be tomorrow ๐Ÿ™


Hopefully the same doesn’t happen for you ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
5662 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@DreamingofDiamonds:  see everything happens for a reason! You can find something now that will challenge you and allow you to grow!

thats great you are from Seattle! I work downtown but live up north in mill creek 

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