- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
So, somehow in the process of the past two days, I have not only lost two girls as my bridesmaids, but as my friends as well.
They have been sort of a pain through the whole process. No dates worked for them, they couldn’t afford this or that (which really wasn’t true, because they were getting pedicures, out at the bar every night, buying new laptops, etc.) It was more like they didn’t choose to spend their money on things not for them.
Anyway, they were off in their own little world at a bridesmaids’ slumber party this weekend and really just hung out with eachother. (I introduced them and now they are like BFF) They complained about everything, even having to get their makeup done, saying they would probably just redo it after anyway.
We had to change my bach party ideas four times because of them. So, when I finally said “Ok, I won’t have a bach party, lets just go out after my shower” They said they were planning on leaving my shower early, because it was N’s dad’s birthday. (Which we had changed the shower date twice to avoid it being on the same weekend) So when I asked why L then couldn’t come, she said she was going with N.
Long story short, I left and wrote them a nice e-mail, stating that I was not mad at all, but that I wish I could communicate with them individually and did not understand why they come as a package now. I said it super nice and genuinely didn’t want to start a fight.
I got two 19-paragraph repsonses back saying horrible things about me as a person and I need to get over myself and that their life is not a fairytale like mine, it is reality. (I have four children and one is severely disabled.)
Anyway, they continued to attack me via e-mail and I only responded with how sorry I was if it came wrong and I didn’t understand what they were upset about. I have been awesome to bridesmaids, letting them pick whatever dress they want. I took them shopping last weekend and let them pick out clutches and earrings. I am paying for their hotel and throwing them a spa pedi party.
After hours of e-mails, I leave to take my soon to be step-daughters to their first dress fitting with my mother in-law. When they realize I am away from the computer, they begin text messaging me with horrible things and finally saying they will not be in my wedding. They said my wedding will be a joke, with black dressed bitches going down the aisle, etc.
I spent two hours crying hysterically. Partly about my wedding, but mostly about the shock. How could anyone do this to me.
I let one of them live with me for six months rent free (I even bought her groceries) because she was struggling.
My heart is broken and I guess I just wanted to vent. I am so terrified my wedding is going to be tainted by this. 🙁