(Closed) I lost two bridesmaids yesterday :(

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

WOW  HUGS to you.  I have no real advice, just try to remember that it does not matter who is walking down the aisle before you, it is who is standing at the end of it waiting for you.  Best of luck.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Serious hugs to you… I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. Way to try to keep it civil, though. You’re better off without those girls, and I truly feel that your day will be that much better without them. @Missbubbles said it perfectly… it’s about who’s standing at the end of the aisle waiting for you.

Much love. Hang in there.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ouch.. This sounds like a really in depth story but they should not be saying hurtful things like that to you even if they did not want to be in the wedding. 

Post # 6
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18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow I don’t have much advice but I really don’t know why they flew off the handle like that.  It is so uncalled for.

Post # 7
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3252 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh my!! I am so sorry but it seems to me that deep down they weren’t ever FRIENDS to start with and just going along for the ride, taking all the free stuff they could along the way. I hate ppl like that. They’re jealous hense the statement “their life is not a fairytale like yours”. I know it hurts badly but it’s best to move on. Your life will continue without these chics.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You poor thing. What a terrible exprience to have when this is suppose to be one of your happiest times of your lives! That being said, it has been my experience that weddings can bring out the most undignified and selfish behavior in your closest friends and family.

My advice is to take comfort in your REAL friends and family, the ones that actually are happy and excited for you. The pain of their behavior will lessen with time, and when your wedding day finally comes, you will be blissfully happy, I promise. Perhaps after the wedding, you and your friends may reconcile, but maybe not and thats ok. Why? Because sometimes we just out-grow friends. And I think these are two women that you don’t need in your life anymore.

Post # 9
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1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh my gosh.. I’m so sorry to read about this.. how awful.  It’s scary how mean people can get when they are unhappy about something.  Sending lots of positive thoughts your way.. I hope things look up for you!

Post # 10
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ugh, how awful.  I think weddings can bring out jealousy and other complex emotions in people.

I wouldn’t let these people terrorize me like this.  If you want, try to rehabilitate the friendships after the wedding.  I think you will just have to decide whether you want to be friends with them at all, give their faults and shortcomings.  Try to accept it and move on.  Don’t worry, the wedding is *really* about you and your future husband… I’m sure you’ll stiull have a great one!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

While I know you probably really wanted these girls as your BMs, aren’t you glad the bitchiness came out now rather than on your wedding day? They obviously wanted to make your day about them and when you called them out on it, they got angry. You wouldn’t want such “classy” women standing up for you on your big day anyway.

Post # 12
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2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m really sorry 🙁  Those girls sound like awful “friends.”  Your wedding will not be a joke!  Just ignore them, and count yourself lucky to have such negative people out of your life.  Sometimes weddings make people show their true colors.  At least you handled this whole thing in a respectful, civil manner.  They can’t say the same…

Post # 13
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14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Um, yeah, they sound pretty psychotic. It’s definitely time to dump them.

Post # 14
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I totally agree with JamaicaBride- you are better off without these two standing next to you on your wedding day. Sounds kinda like they may be jealous and selfish (not a good combination). On the bright side, hopefully the worst of the drama is over and you can move forward. Good luck!  

Post # 15
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

um.. eff them! just think now you don’t have to spend any more of your money or time on someone who won’t give it back.. and i’m sure your wedding will rock, and they are obviously just jealous that you are having the wedding of your dreams while, let me guess.. they can’t even get a man to stick around.. sorry they are such pains, wish i could be more helpful, but i sounds like it’s a blessing in disguise

Post # 16
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2634 posts
Sugar bee

I’m so sorry.

These girls aren’t your “friends” and really, they probably never were.

Your better off without them.  That is just retched that they are doing this to you – but DO NOT let it bring you down.

(((hugs)))

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