(Closed) I love friends who cry poverty and then…..

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

 I totally am with you; I have a friend who pulls this type of thing ALL the time. My Fiance is probably sick of hearing me b*tch about it.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

UGH!  I know how you feel!  I’m having a destination wedding and have been engaged since June 09.  I asked my bridesmaids right after we got engaged and all of them said that they would be honored.  Cut to this year and one of my bridesmaids, that happens to be the mother of my flowergirl, says, “I think destination weddings are rude because it puts too many demands on the guests”…WHAT?  THen why did you agree to be in my wedding?  Not only that, why did you agree to have your daughter in my wedding?  Its so freaking frustrating!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

ah my brideamid is the exact same way, she is always inviting me to lunch and then never has money!!! her father died last year and she was making us feel very bad that they had no money for rent and so on. so me and my friend evelyn held a yard sale both of us sunburned and dehydrated and she didnt even show up to help. well we went to the house gave her the money we rasied 575 dollard that day!!! well i went home got ready and went to Khols and low and behold whos at the register with an armful of clothes  MY FRIEND !!!! well now that the wedding has rolled around she has no money for anything but yet she just bought 3 COACH PURSES at 225 each at dillards??? WTF honestly

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

thats how i feel and we did it to show our love for her family in thier time of need and then for her to just blow it on clothing, and not clothing she needed as she has a closet full. i just think its ironic she always has her nails done , cuts her hair once a month but never has money. when we plan a lunch date i have to pick her up and pay  so needless to say out last lunch date was 4 months ago as she decided to order the most expensive thing on the menu alaskan king crab while i had a cup of clam chowder and had to pay 36 dollars for her lunch??? i dont think so!!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have a few friends like this.  I think people like this are usually telling the truth about being broke because when they get some $ they make bad decisions.  It is sad that some adults are incapable of taking care of their own finances.  I have a friend who always said she couldn’t wait to get married so she would have someone to help her control how she spends money and bail her out of debt.  That guy is going to get more than he bargained for!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i think before you start dating we should be able to run credit checks lol!!! thank god my fiance and i have good credit and know how to budget and save. unlike my other friend who got married last month and to her surprise her now husband is 28 thousand in debt!!! how hoorible to start married life with that over your head

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@babebabe06:

This chick sounds horrible, how is she still a friend?  I would’ve asked for my money back the second I saw her at Kohls, stating that the money you worked so hard to raise was for her rent, not her purse fund.  She clearly isn’t hard up for cash.

What a leech.

I have an ex friend like that (ex because I couldn’t handle the self-manufactured drama anymore.) She filed for bankruptcy and is always bitching that her and her husband can’t pay their bills, yet they live in a huge house we’ve dubbed “the villa”, her kids go to private school and they spend approximately 1,000 a month on wine and expensive dinners (I am NOT exaggerating that figure.)  The law should really require an audit before allowing people to file for bankruptcy.

People like that seriously make my skin crawl.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

ahh i hear you honestly and i sooo wanted to but i did it to be a good friend and i guess nect time i should make cntract stating what the purpoose of the money is for and have her signn it lol or next time i will just take the money and pay it myself!!!!!!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oooo girl, don’t even get me started.  I have a friend who won’t come to my bachelorette weekend because it will cost too much.  Well, if you wouldn’t buy a sweet tea and a latte EVERY SINGLE MORNING (she’s that girl that likes the fact that Jose at McDonald’s knows her name) and if you wouldn’t eat out 4 times a week or more for dinner, YOU COULD COME.  When she blames it on money and I see what she BLOWS her money on, it BLOWS my mind.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ahhh, I hate people like that!!!  My SIL is like that too!  She’s always saying how she never has any money and yet every other week, she’s updating Facebook with pictures of her going out and partying at bars and clubs and stuff.  And then she’ll say “I’m so sorry Adira, but I’m broke and can’t get you guys anything for Christmas” (which is totally fine if it’s true), but then shows up and is like “check out my brand new outfit, blah blah blah.”  And NOW she’s just hit up my husband for $800 to fix her car because god forbid she actually save some money herself for emergencies like that!  UGH!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2006

I can see both sides of the story here.  I have been the roommate of the girl who didn’t pay me for rent, but flew across country to go on vacation while I paid the rent and tried to figure out how to only eat $20 worth of food for the next two weeks. 

 And now, 10 years later, that ex roommate works for a govt contractor making big bucks.  So she calls me to go to a concert and the tickets are $300 each! My response is “can’t afford it, sorry.” But the same week we bought about $2,000 worth of flooring and 5 new work shirts for Darling Husband.  I am sure if she had seen us at Kohls buying his shirts she would have questioned our money management skills too!  (In truth, I did not have that much money for concert tix.  We had saved for the floor and Darling Husband took his work shirts out of his monthly “discretionary spending allowance”, the same place my “lunch with the girls and new lipstick” come from.)

I agree with the poster who said that some people never have money because they spend any that they get.  You may also have a friend who is living mostly off credit, which is why she can afford to go shopping, but doesn’t have dollar bills to tip a bartender!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If you’re living off credit you can’t “afford to go shopping” unless it’s for groceries or other essentials.  Coach purses are not essentials.

Credit does not equal money, people!  A credit card is not a paycheck! 

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