(Closed) I love my FI, but….

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Small things set me off too. Nothing big, but it’s always the little things right?! He leaves the kitchen cabinet doors open if takes a glass/plate, etc. out. He leaves the shower curtain open so it sticks together and it’s starting to get moldy. He piles his clothes on a chair in the bdrm and it’s almost as tall as me!

I think it goes for anyone you live with though. I can name a zillion things about old roommates, my brothers, etc and I’m sure they’ve got them for me too.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

let me count the ways…haha!!

  1. No matter how often I ask him, he won’t put anything in the dishwasher.
  2. He kicks my cat out of our room at night, even though she doesn’t do anything to him (she’ll wake me up if she wants to play).
  3. As much as I’m used to his teasing me in a friendly way, some days it drives me BATTY!!!
  4. His bad grammar…he can’t pronounce sandwich properly (sangwich anyone?) and always uses double negatives..it’s so dumb and probably ignorant of me but it drives me CRAZY.
  5. He won’t make the bed..

and so it continues..

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ok, i love love my Fiance. hes my bud. love love. BUT..

• he doesn’t put away clothes. He lives out of a laundry basket.

• he doesn’t wash dishes. ever. ever.

• he is VERY impatient, about everything.. it causes problems.

• he turns up the heat in the apartment to 90 degrees in the winter. its too damn hot.

 

i could go on, but i’ll just stop here for now 🙂

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Today is totally not the day to ask me that!  Lol.  We have not been on the same page for a couple days now.  There’s a big old list of things that I can’t stand.  I think the most annoying is when he says he’ll do something, nothing hugely important, something like, take out the garbage.  And 4 days later its still sitting in the hallway.  Yuck and Ugh! 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

He always puts his dishes in the dishwasher…but leaves hardened stuff that the dishwasher won’t take off and loads it in the weirdest way so you could only fit like 3 bowls in the whole thing

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Besides the typical won’t make the bed type gripes, the one thing that really gets me sometimes is that he has a very low emotional intelligence. He very rarely shows emotion, and he has no idea how to handle others who do. I was pretty upset yesterday about my first grad school rejection/worries for the future, and he replied by basically saying that it’s my own fault for not applying to more schools and because I applied to Soc programs even though my BA is in English (nevermind that I have a minor in Soc and was already enrolled to finish a second BA in Soc for this spring when I applied). After about 30 minutes of me bawling, the lightbulb went on that maybe it would be better to just give me a hug and ask how I want to spend the evening rather than take off to go horseback riding with someone else. He was really sweet for the rest of the night, but yeah, that really does not help. And that’s just the freshest example I have; I am slowly learning to adjust my expectations or turn to friends rathern than my own FI for support when I am upset.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

OH..just like amaryllis..

He yells when I get upset and cry.  I’m an oversensitive bee, and he doesn’t know what to do when tears come a-flying, even when it has absolutely nothing to do with him and I’m just crying as a way to vent (out of anger, frustration..)

ugh!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

hahaha love this thread!  My Fiance is truely my best friend and since we are together alll the time it doesn’t seem abnormal to me that certian things about him drive me nuts, such as:

*Is there a reason you can’t wash off your plate and put it in the dishwasher?!  It is right next to the sink where you put the dirty plate!!  Not to mention when was the last time you EVER did the dishes?  Oh.. never:)

*Shut off the lights when you walk out of the room!  How hard is that?!

*May I ask why you have the need to completely undress in the middle of the living room and then leave your clothes there for me to take upstairs?!

*Can you just one time put a new roll of TP on the actual dispenser when you use the last of the TP instead of leaving on the floor for the cats to play with? 

 

…I am sure there are other things but this list serves its purpose:)

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

This is greatttttt. @miss bella at least your boy pulls out a new roll of TP for you.. Mine leaves the empty one on the dispenser and I have to go find a new one AFTER I’m done and realize that it’s empty.. ACK. Lately I have been frustrated by his forgetfulness… “Babe, can you take out the trash?” “Yea no problem!” 2 days later…….. ack! Then he complains that I nag! Haha, I love him to pieces though….. and he never really means to make me grumpy… he’s just a dude.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Krissy- If you didn’t have a picture of you and your Fiance I swear you were engaged to my Fiance.  That is who he is.  The toilet paper thing is ridic lately though.  He has a cold, so he’ll take the entire roll of toilet paper to the couch to blow his nose and never replace it.  I went pee at like 3am only to find out there was no toilet paper, awesome.  And why doesn’t he use the darn tissues?  Oddball.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

@jennifer_espos …. well that’s not a pic of us so it could still be true.. Especially since my boy uses TP as tissues too!!!!! He’s never taken an entire roll out of the bathroom before, but the tissues are in the bathroom, on the counter, right above the TP holder…. DUDE just take a tissue!!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s a gene that only men have about putting dishes in the dishwasher.  He puts them on the counter directly above the dishwasher.  I’m constantly asking him to please put them in.  Or if he’s going into the kitchen with a dirty dish, I’m always reminding him that the dishwasher is dirty.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@ Miss Bella- Im so glad you mentioned about him taking off his clothes in the middle of the room and leaving them there! Darling Husband does that too, and it drives me nuts! The worst part is that he just walks around in his under pants! At least put some other clothes on!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Mu husband is a grandpa.  Seriously, he is soooooooooo slow.  I’m worried about when we actually get old, how slow will he be then?!

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