I love my fiance, but I'm having some trouble with his hygiene.

posted 10 months ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Am I being too insensitive or am I being reasonable?
    Being too insensitive : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Being reasonable : (106 votes)
    98 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    115 posts
    Blushing bee

    I had trouble just reading the gross disgusting stuff he does!  My kids as young children had better manners and hygiene habits than him!  Yuck!

    Post # 3
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    2917 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    imperfectfiance :  Ummm what.

    I honestly don’t know how you’ve managed to be with this man for this long, all of this is so, so disgusting.

    You have every right to be grossed out, it sounds like you’re engaged to a small child because a grown man should be doing NONE of what you’ve described.

    I would not be with someone who does what you’ve listed here.

    Post # 5
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    4811 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    Thats so friggin disgusting. I threw up in my mouth just reading this. I don’t even know how you can be with a man like this, I’d be out. I’m off to dry heave. GL 

    Post # 9
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    1142 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    imperfectfiance :  He’s an adult, he knows he needs to brush his teeth. I would be blunt and tell him that his breath is making you sick and you can’t kiss him. 

    Tell him that picking and eating is teaching your kids bad habits so please stop.

    Lastly, you can’t make him do anything about his pubes if he doesn’t want to but you can suggest to him that it is your preference.

    It will probably hurt his feelings but it shouldn’t because he’s old enough to know better!

    Post # 10
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    6438 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I would not be able to tolerate these things. Has he always been this way? I just wonder how you got to the point of sleeping with him at all. Is he depressed? I’ve got the heebie jeebies just thinking about this. 

    Post # 11
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    1102 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    For one to suddenly stop brushing their teeth is so odd! Did he stop brushing his hair and using deodorant too? 

     

    Idk what I’d do in this situation. This is pretty gross though!

    Post # 13
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    4811 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    imperfectfiance :  go to a shelter and get on an subsidized housing list, get a job asap, no excuses. Never allow yourself to be hopeless without a man. What kind of lesson are you teaching your daughter? There is help out there. Sorry but it doesn’t matter how ”great” he is with your daughter. He’s disgusting. 

    Post # 15
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    1142 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    imperfectfiance :  Can you go to counseling? If it were me I’d honestly leave him but it doesn’t sound like you want to so you need him to realise how badly this is impacting you. Maybe he needs to hear it from someone else. I agree with PP though, you need to start taking steps to be less reliant on him. Even if you don’t leave him, let it be by choice, not because you’re stuck. 

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