- 2 years ago
OK Bee. Now we are at the point where we no longer worry about how he will feel about things. We need to change that mind set. We don’t worry anymore about what he thinks, how he will react, what other people will say. We worry about you and how you feel. Embarrassment is a non issue. Do you get on well with his sister? You say you have done this before? What you make clear to her is that you need a break from your husband and a shoulder to rest on for a while. Things are not going well.You are unhappy and need a place to gather your thoughts. You do not need to expand at this time if you not wish to. Tell her you hope that she understands and that you are feeling extremely fragile right now and really, really REALLY do not want to speak to him so they don’t phone him and invite him over. We DO NOT CARE about how upset he will be if you tell his family. Emotional loyalty to your husband no longer matters. You are a person worthy of a happy life. Don’t lie in bed and listen to him bluster and fluster about trying to make himself a poor little put upon husband. Pack a bag and leave. Please bee. Don’t expose yourself anymore to this egocentric facsimile of a man.