- 3 years ago
My husband and I went through a huge compromise – to have a baby in 3 years. We got married 1.5 years ago and we are both still young – 24 (me) & 27 (him).
I compromised for him because he has to finish school first before having children. I love babies a lot, but I sacrificed for him, so we will have to wait. Before this compromise, we were arguing a lot about having babies earlier. I even stopped saying the word “baby.” I thought that this was the source of our arguments. I love my husband so much, but I don’t want my husband to divorce me because we have minor disagreements or arguments. I am just so frustrated because he is still arguing about EVERYTHING.
So today we got into an argument which made me come to my fellow wives for help. I compromise/sacrifice a lot for my husband, but he has not yet done the same for me. I feel that it is very unfair. I expressed this to him, but he seems not to care. I gave up a large wedding for him, diamond engagement rings, babies for awhile, our own apartment or house, and much more.
The argument that really drove me here was that he always talks about this girl. This girl is cousin’s with my husband’s best friend. This girl is not better than me, besides that she is an MD. I do not think that my husband is being unfaithful to me. We are both faithful to each other. But I have no idea why my husband always speaks very highly about her, she really isn’t perfect. Was he testing me to see if I am a secure woman? He told me that I am an idiot compared to her. He then told me that he does not trust me as his wife & with children. He told me that he trusts his family (mom, grandmother, sisters) – who are all “stable”.
Will he leave me one day? Is he like this because he had an ex-fiancee (hence the trust issues)? Will he cheat on me? Will he break his promise about him having kids with me?
Please only good intentions & honest responses.