- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
I love my Mom. I really, really do. She’s a great lady and one of my best friends and allies and I’m very lucky to have her. But sometimes…….
Fiance and I are buying a house, which is surprisingly a lot like dress shopping; you try on dozens looking for the right one in your price range. Mom is crazy excited about it and has been sending me loads of links to houses, which is cool and I think is fun. I love that she’s so interested and it’s been helpful, and I’ve let her know this. The houses she sends us are three bedrooms and we’re looking hopefully for four so we have room to grow, but that’s fine we’re not ruling out three bedrooms. Last week, she went house hunting with us and was a bit overbearing (which I haven’t gotten the chance to talk to her about) but nothing we couldn’t handle. Regardless we didn’t find anything that could work since it turns out they were in pretty bad shape and with a VA loan you can’t get a fixer-upper (unfortunately…I’d kind of like that). But I digress.
Long story short she calls me yesterday morning and we’re talking and I tell her “and you know, we’re also looking primarily for four bedrooms” and she goes off about how she’s going to stop sending us anything because we never like anything she sends and there’s always something wrong with them and she just seems to be irritating us and why are we looking for four bedrooms anyway? This HURTS and I try to tell her why but no dice. Anyway we hang up and I’m still angry.
I feel like she’s being dismissive of my feelings because she’s not fully comfortable that I’ve started my own family and I think that’s normal. Maybe I just need to be more understanding because I’m sure there’s something that I’m not doing that I should be, but I’m not in the mood to talk with her about it right now. I’m still sad and angry.
Anyone else have a Mom that you love but sometimes behaves in a way you consider to be overly dramatic and or dismissive?
…geez, that’s probably everyone. Anyone not have a Mom like that?