Post # 1
I’ve frequented Weddingbee for several months, but I’ve never really payed attention to the separate sections of the boards until tonight, and I’m soooo glad I decided to explore. Finding this Waiting board has been so helpful, and almost theraputic for me. I’m a Waiting Bee (could ya tell?) and sometimes I feel like I have no one to talk to about these things. My boyfriend will just get frustrated because he doesn’t understand, my best friend recently got engaged, I have no siblings to discuss this with, etc. You ladies have succeeded in making me feel sooo much more sane! I can’t tell you how many times (especially lately since my BFF got engaged) that I’ve felt like a psycho girlfriend who is on the verge of resorting to the “propose to me or else” tactic! I really thought I was the only one who sometimes cried over waiting or felt depressed for no reason at all or could be sent into a fit over the smallest thing if I’m having a particularly bad time of waiting that day. I even saw one bee post that tv shows with engaged couples would make her tear up. All I can say about that is “I feel ya, sister!” I’m soooo happy that there’s a place for us to talk about this and support each other.
Basically, thank you gals for making me smile and maybe shed a few tears too! And hopefully we won’t be waiting for tooooo much longer! 🙂
Post # 3
You’re right it is like therapy, girl therapy, like having a bunch of sisters to talk to :-). Don’t feel bad we all have our bad waiting days and it’s nice to have others who understand.
I totally understand what you are going through. My best friend got engaged 3 months ago and is getting married next month. I’m so very happy for her, but it was a lot harder to deal with than I thought it would be, especially because we both started dating our respective SO’s at the same time. But I know my time is coming and it helps to “wait” with all you other bees.
Post # 4
Glad you found the bee. You’ll love it here! It’s a great way to avoid driving the SO nuts with engagement and wedding talk! Lol 🙂
Post # 5
@happy2bee: I feel just the same about my best friend getting engaged. I was verrrrry happy for her when she first told me, and then I got hit with the ugliest fit of jealousy I’ve ever experienced, and then I let it go and am sincerly happy for her again. It was such an awful feeling being so jealous and bitter towards my best friend for a couple of days and I sure hope it doesn’t come back anytime during the planning process!
@ChicChick: Haha! It really is a good way to save the boyfriend from all this talk. I always want to talk to him about dresses, cakes, venues, possible season for our wedding, but stop myself because I know he would have no idea what to say. Haha. I feel like me and the bees are going to be good friends 🙂
Post # 6
@CarolinaCola: Glad you’re here 😀 I love the waiting board too… Nice to not feel alone in all this!
Post # 7
@CarolinaCola: Hello! Glad to have you! I just joined a few days ago officially (but have been stalking the page for awhile) and I love it! Everyone is super sweet and helpful. And trust me, I am going crazy waiting…. You are not alone 🙂
Post # 8
Welcome to the boards officially 🙂
Its a great place to go when things are getting too much or you want to share the little milestones with people who understand.
Post # 9
I moved from Vegas, where I have been residing for over 15 years! I moved away from my family, my friends, everything I knew to be with my SO in California. Let me tell you, my mother works often so I don’t get to chat with her much, my best friend works and goes to school, and I haven’t met anyone close here to discuss my feelings with so I usually opened up to Mr. Beary about my feelings and he gets upset and tells me to stop talking about it because I’m going to ruin the surprise. I want a general idea of when things are going to happen, because I am a planner and that’s how I am naturally. So this whole “waiting” thing blows my emotions out of line from time to time.
The best things I have found that keep me calm, and sane, are discussing frustrations here with the ladies on the boards, helping them with their issues, watching wedding shows (Four Weddings, Bridezilla, Say Yes to the Dress) when you’re in a wedding mood, and KEEP BUSY! Try not to unleash your emotions on your SO. I promise you that the more you stay busy, the quicker time will go and the less focused you are on the ring aspect. It WILL come. Until then, the ladies on TWB really know how to be there for you. We all help one another out, and in our time of need, others are here for us. It’s like a support system. I wouldn’t know what to do if I didn’t find TWB!
Post # 10
I have to agree with katiebeary . Ever since I stopped obsessing about it to SO and started focusing more on myself….and unleashing my frustrations on the Bee…HE brings it up more than I do. It seems like we’re making baby steps towards the engagement. I’ve been able to keep my cool in front of SO, b/c I know I can get on here and rant about all of my waiting emotions, sans judgment.
Post # 11
@endofmyrope:I’m in the same camp with you and @katiebeary:. Take this time right now to be you. If you think it’s going to happen, and you’ve discussed it, then it probably will. If you haven’t, or he doesn’t appear ready, don’t push it.
Trashy TV usually does the trick for me (Bridezillas! whoa!), doing my nails, do things like looking at houses in neighborhoods we like (specifically the one we both grew up), browsing on pinterest… I’ll admit, something I look at a picture of my ring (he has it, but I haven’t “seen” it…) and I imagine what it would be like on my hand. Ok that last one is a little crazy… but you get the idea.
Also, since this whole thing happened, I’ve been MUCH more productive at work. I find that working harder (nerd!) totally helps the day go faster.
Post # 12
I literally have nobody to complain to.. the last person I want to complain to is my parents and I always make a mess of things if I complain to my SO… and all of my girlfriends and I are in a wedding party later this summer .. and I cannot be that bridesmaid that is jealous of the bride.
You are SOOO right about this being theraputic for us waiting bees… thanks from me too ladies 😉