(Closed) I love you and I'll wait..(introducing myself,sorry long!)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Welcome to the Hive!!

Post # 4
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5065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Hi PlusOne,

Welcome!

My best friend is an Aussie and reading your post reminded me of her. In particular – “It annoys the ham and eggs out of me”.  Really cute!

Have fun here.

Lucy x

Post # 5
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I understand what you mean.  My ex has parental alienate my girls from me.  Which i am going for sole custody cause of this and i have accurate proof.  I didn’t want to do this but i have no choice.  He just got remarried by a woman who has five kids with in 10 months.  Yeah russhing is alittle.  I have been with my bf for over a year and the court stuff doesn’t effect him but everyone is different.  I would wait to talk to him after court stuff dies down.  But good luck with court.  anyquestions let me know i have been there and done it.  6 times. lol 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi, Welcome to The Hive !!

Sounds like your the majority of your relationship so far has been “tainted” by all this legal stuff (as someone who went thru a HORRIBLE Divorce, I can say I sadly relate).

That legal junk can be emotionally taxing… and sometimes you need to be free and clear of it for awhile, before you can wrap your head around the next part of your life (especially if one feels wounded, or has trust issues as a result of the fall-out)

When I met Mr TTR I was in the midst of my Divorce.  And it dragged on thru the courts for years.  It was 5 years after the Divorce (Fall 2011), that we finally were comfortable enough to talk about Marriage / making it legal (altho like you in Australia we were already considered a Common Law Couple by the State).  We got engaged this Spring, and will marry in December.

My past, is now pretty much all in the past thankfully.  It does take time tho.

So welcome to the WAITING BOARD… great bunch of Bees here to hang out with.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@PlusOne77:  Welcome.

I can understand how you feel, but as an unbiased outsider, I think you need to give any marriage talk a rest until the custody stuff settles down.

Think about it – he is just getting OUT of a marriage. I think it’s great that he is so serious about you and wants to marry you, and you don’t want to do anything to jinx it. Normally when people post about their guys being a bit wishy washy about a timeline, I tell them to set their own timeline and leave… but I think in your case he has good reasons to not think about marriage at the moment. The relationship IS heading towards marriage (at least that’s the indication I get from your post).

I’m in a similar but slightly less complex situation (no kids). I try not to ask him too much about the divorce… but it is draining. I know it stresses him out, and therefore I am stressed. We have discussed marriage, ring, buying property, etc…. but it’s all up in the air since we have no idea what kind of settlement he’ll end up with. It’s already almost 2 years into the divorce and it’s moving very slowly. I want to get married and get on w. things but since I know I have to be patient, I do my best to not bring up marriage, ring, etc. talk. We discuss the future, but sadly we can’t do exactly timelines yet. But I am hopeful!

Anyway, it will get easier. πŸ™‚

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