(Closed) “I love your ring! It’s so petite…” vent

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

How rude! I have no idea what you say to people like that except “How rude!” or ignoring them. Sorry you have to deal with that. But you love your ring and your Fiance so that’s all the matters!

Post # 4
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

Where is the meanness in that? Gaudy isn’t exactly a positive word, it sounds like she genuinely likes your ring?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ugh, who SAYS that?! I would probably respond by making some sort of rude comment backk to her, but it’s probably better to be a bigger person and just ignore her. ๐Ÿ™ Sorry, that really is such a rude thing to say.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Belle2Be: Yeah i have to agree. I mean fair enough to vent about it on the Bee if thats not the word you like. But when my Darling Husband proposed I when i showed people my ring I actually said…”I love it, its so petite and antique looking”  I think petitie is a lovely word, kind of meaning detailed and intiricate.

I am on the other end of this as well….I won a ring later and wear that as my wedding ring now. When i show people, they ohh and ahh and i said…”ahh its  little big and kind of gaudy to me” and then flash them the ring on my other hand ๐Ÿ™‚

I dont know if she had any intention of offending you here ๐Ÿ™‚ It truly is a lovely ring.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

What a ridiculous thing to say.  Just ignore her… she obviously has no tact.  The pic is blurry but your ring looks beautiful.  And honestly, she needs to get over herself because 1.5 carats is not a HUGE ring to the point of being gaudy. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I can see how that comment may come off as rude because there was a direct comparison between your ring and hers, stating that your ring is clearly very “petite”, and not many women want their ring to be called petite.  On the other hand, I don’t think your friend was trying to be rude; she did say that your ring is PERFECT for you.  I know it’s hard to do in a society where how much you own is judged, bigger is better, and more expensive means more, but try to look at the positive side of this situation….perhaps she is caught up in that hype? 

I love how your ring has symbolic meaning to you ~ that’s truly special, and I am so happy that you have your dream ring!  I always wanted my grandma’s ring, too, but I never got it.  No massive diamond in the world can replace the sentimentality of wearing your grandmother’s ring.  Wear it with pride, girlie!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sorry people are so rude! I have a couple of friends with smaller rings than mine and they tell me that my ring would just look awful on them and it’s not their style, so I guess the backhanded compliments go both ways.

Post # 10
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544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Wow. How rude!  It would have been hard for me to bite my tongue.  But her big, gaudy ring matches her big, gaudy mouth.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@SoontobeMrsA: As a fellow Keurig addict, I still think you’re being over-sensitive. That still doesn’t seem mean. A little over-share, but not mean.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

@SoontobeMrsA: So that seems like what you should’ve said back- “I like your ring, I don’t think its big or gaudy at all!”.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wth… with that last comment you didn’t include in your original post, I’d have to say shes being pretty mean and self absorbed.  How about a response along the lines “I’m so glad I can have my grandparents ring that has so much meaning and history behind it, and not waste so much money on a giant ring just to try to impress other people.”

Edit, lol.. ok..after re-reading this, maybe thats kind of mean. 

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