(Closed) I made my FI's 30th Birthday invites.. thoughts??

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Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I agree about changing the theme, but I actually think that cake is a funny idea. Not everything needs to be serious. I DO think though that the theme and the cake together is a little too much. Just the cake tho, that’s funny to me! 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MsBark:  No. Just no.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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@Kir32:  I would assume the same thing! I’ve been to Marlowe Restaurant, and I remember it being a fine dining, wine bar type of place. Maybe change the invite a little bit to reflect that?

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

@MsBark:  I actually kinda think the cake is funny. The invitations are nice, but if I received an invite like that I might think there’ll be strippers involved. What does the playboy bunny have to do with the party? Is it the theme? Will there be bunny waitresses or something?

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@MsBark:  for my Dhs 30th birthday I’m renting out space at a local beer place. His invites are jack Daniels themed and his cake will be in the shape of a bottle of jack Daniels. I will have beer and chili tasting along with wine and cheese samplings. I’ll have good muisc playing and the decor will be simple. just to give you an example Of my theme I’m doing! If he likes crown royal you could do something similar to thIs! I’m also going with the dapper gentleman theme So there will straws with mustaches on them and other little fun details! 

 

Post # 24
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Helper bee

Don’t want to be a downer or super negative, but I am giving you my honest opinion.

The theme of your invitations do not match the location in which the party is being held. You are going to a more upscale bar/restuarant, and sending out either invites will probably suggest to your guests, to dress casually and expect a boozy party night with either strippers or watching some random game at a sports bar. 

You will probably need to change the location to fit the theme, or do a theme you will actually get to do at Marlowe. It would be strange to make a themed invite and have the party be a regular wine and dine sort of night, with only the cake to represents the theme.

The cake, whichever you choose, is perfectly fine and fun.

 -edit- Just saw your recent comment.

You don’t exactly need a theme. Just make some nice, simple, more professional looking invites so that you entice more people to show up. If they think it’s an important enough birthday to make the invites look good, they will probably show up.

Maybe all he needs is a great group of friends show up to celebrate with him to make him feel better. 

The cake can be a big fun thematic surprise of your choice. 

 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@MsBark: You don’t necessarily need a “theme”, IMO, but when the invite is so blatantly theme oriented then people will expect one. I think the hockey cake is certain much more tasteful and I would like that better, but if all of his friends are bachelors they may appreciate the first one – as long as no one would be embarrased by it then I think it would make you a “cool” Fiance to get him something like that. 

I would redesign the invite and make it more plain. You don’t need a theme with it or a themed background or anything. Maybe just a plain background with interesting font(s) and font color(s)? Or make 30 the theme – have the background of the invite the number 30? If you really want a theme I would do that OR do more of an alcohol/drinking theme if that’s a vibe that he enjoys. Something a little fancier than this maybe? And then have the Crown cake?

Post # 26
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Helper bee

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@carolinabelle:  +1

I think its awesome that you’re trying to help him enjoy his birthday!

To me, having a theme on the invite implies that something about the party will tie into it. with the playboy theme, I’d expect strippers. With the hockey theme, it seems like you’d be watching a game.  It creates expectations and then when there is no follow through with the theme people may either be confused or just feel like the party was lacking. 

For a nice restaurant, maybe something more generic like these would work?

Post # 29
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@MsBark:  How does he feel about MadMen? Is there some upscale show or business show that he likes, something that reflects a brandy and cigar party?

Post # 30
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Helper bee

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@carolinabelle: I agree with you.

OP, maybe the theme should be “30” and since you are going to a wine bar, and if the friends and your SO are wine drinkers, order some of the higher quality ones for him and the guests to enjoy.

Now if you find that the group is not too in to wine, do this with another upscale drink, a few kinds actually. 

Make it a good experience for the guests. Sure you may pay for the booze you choose for them, but if you want it to be a fun and different party, I think that could be your edge in making the party fun and unique for everyone.

Heck, maybe even make the “cake” more upscale. 30 doesn’t need to be a time to remember the “good old days” when you were young, but a period to realize that 30 is when you get to enjoy the finer things in life. 

Fine wine, fine dine, fine food, fine friends, now that’s a good life. 🙂

Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MsBark:  how about getting a playboy bunny cake instead of doing an ass cake and then just do regular invites?

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