(Closed) I mailed my invites too early :(

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 47
Member
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m sending mine out with the EXACT same timeframe as you – Guests have 8 weeks to respond/book hotels/take time off work and you have 3 weeks before the wedding to deal with everything.  Granted, I’m getting married 5 days before Christmas, so I feel like I should give people as much notice as possible, but I think that timeline is actually pretty perfect – All wedding etiquette books will tell you to send them out 6-8 weeks before the wedding anyway.  

Saying that people are going to “forget” is pretty nuts in my opinion lol.  I’m assuming you’re not inviting people who would consider your wedding that meaningless that they’d just forget about it.  People (parents included) really need to learn to keep their negative opinions to themselves when it comes to other people’s weddings…I can relate :

Post # 48
Member
11504 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

It’s not too early.  I mailed mine the last week of February for a May 22 wedding — with a May 1 reply-by date, because I was having a semi-destination wedding, and I wanted to give people sufficient notice to plan and make their travel arrangements.

I also knew there would be some guests who likely would not be able to attend, and I wanted to have plenty of time to then invite friends whom I could not include until I received regrets from others.

Post # 49
Member
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I recieved an invite to a friend’s october 12th wedding a month and a half ago. Don’t feel silly. Be proud you’re on top of this. Good job!

Post # 50
Member
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Dbl post

 

Post # 51
Member
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I received an invite in January for a wedding May long weekend with an RSVP date of Feb 28… so you’re not the earliest I’ve ever seen.

 

In that case I had to contact the bride and groom and advise them that our long weekend work schedules only come out 28 days in advance, and would it be possible to give us an extension and they said no, so we had to just decline, which was too bad since it worked out that we would have been able to attend.

 

Post # 52
Member
2437 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@peachbaby4008:  dont stress everything will work out  just fine. 🙂

Post # 53
Member
2164 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@peachbaby4008:  In my opinion there is no “right” time, because you will have people that RSVP and remember, RSVP and forget, or don’t RSVP any time you send them out. Some people need to make travel accomodations too so sending them out too close to the date, might not work for some guests. I think you’re going to be okay.

Post # 54
Member
24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am getting married the same date 🙂 & sent out my invites two weeks ago – I have had 60% send their RSVPs back already. Dont stress it

The topic ‘I mailed my invites too early :(’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors