Post # 1
I found out how much he has left to pay on my e-ring and how much he’s paying per month… End result being he likely won’t have the ring for a YEAR. (Really? $1500 ring, paying $100 a month at 20% interest? No way, bucko.) I told him I’m not gonna wait for more than two years for him to propose (we started dating February 2009). I told him I’d be fine with a ring from Wal-Mart. A $50 ring is fine by me. I just want that question and that promise.
I really don’t want to walk out come February, which will happen if we’re not engaged. So I bought his wedding band. Which, if I don’t have a ring come New Year’s, will be HIS engagement ring. It should be here in two weeks.
Would it rob him of proposing? Yeah. And it’d rob me of a proposal. But dang it, I’m not waiting another year.
Post # 3
@cyneswith: Calm down, take a deep breath and relax. Have you stated to your Boyfriend or Best Friend your expectations rationally and calmly? How do you know he is not going to pay a chunk of it when he gets a year end bonus or a tax return early 2011. Calm down and think this thing through. He went to pick out a ring and he is making payments. Give him some credit….he is a little slow but his intentions are good. I think you are being emotional and hasty. We have all been there!
Post # 4
@cyneswith:don’t you think it’s a little “psycho girlfriend” to buy his wedding band already without even knowing for sure that you are going to marry him? I also think it is a little outrageous for you to demand an engagement ring like that. How can you walk out on someone after just 2 years because he may not be ready or because he couldn’t pay off the ring just yet? I dated my fiancee for 6 years before he proposed. I think you need to get a mani/pedi, relax and take a look at your relationship so you will see what a great guy you have and not push him into anything he may not want or be ready for. Not trying to be harsh, but I know what it’s like to want it really bad… 6 years…. But enjoy your time together and if it’s going to happen, it will. But you can’t put it or him on a timeline.
Post # 6
@katiebutcher: Is it psycho girlfriend to make all his meals, wash his clothes, and clean his house too? We function like husband and wife. If he doesn’t propose within a timeframe conducive to my sanity, I’ll propose to him. That’s not psycho. If I had all the time in the world, I’d wait. He wants three kids, I have 8 child-bearing years left (the women in my family who ignored that had stillborns and children with severe birth defects that died young.)
Post # 7
I don’t see anything wrong with it, I’d give him a little warning though. Basically, told him what you told us, but a little nicer. 😉
Post # 8
Whoa. If I were a guy and you hit me with that, I think I’d be walking! It sounds like he’s probably doing his best to pay for that ring. I don’t know if he can afford to put more towards it per month, but I’m going to guess he budgeted out what will work for him.
Cut the guy some slack. He’s got a ring that he’s paying off. It’s not like he’s blowing you off altogether!
Post # 9
Just because he is only currently paying $100 a month doesn’t mean he always will. Just like our credit card – some months we can only afford to pay the minimum balance, but other months we pay $500. Especially with tax time, etc. 🙂
Post # 10
I kind of like the idea of you taking matters into your own hands and proposing to him in a sweet way. Even if he wants the proposal experience, he can still do something special for you when he gets your ring.
Post # 11
I know you aren’t asking for advice, but slow down. I know you don’t want to wait a year and all, but like pp said, he may pay more on the ring over time. It will take him a minute with only $100, but you never know about tax time, a raise or something. He could add a lot soon.
Good luck either way!
Post # 12
So… Does he actually have the ring yet? Because if he does, you never know… He could propose before he’s done paying it off.
And like the other girls said… Some months you can only afford to pay so much, and then other months you can’t. My b/f has been saving money for a ring and told me that he could afford to save approx. $800 per month. But things come up that get in the way of his paying that much per month.
Post # 13
He could pay off the ring in two months with no change to spending habits. He’s normally smart with money, but paying that off slowly with a 20% interest rate is… silly. It’s not about the money for me, though it annoys me that he ignored everything I said about what I wanted in an engagement ring (small, plain, inexpensive). If he doesn’t propose by Valentine’s Day, I’ll do it then.