(Closed) I may be crazy

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@cyneswith: Calm down, take a deep breath and relax. Have you stated to your Boyfriend or Best Friend your expectations rationally and calmly? How do you know he is not going to pay a chunk of it when he gets a year end bonus or a tax return early 2011. Calm down and think this thing through. He went to pick out a ring and he is making payments. Give him some credit….he is a little slow but his intentions are good. I think you are being emotional and hasty. We have all been there!

Post # 4
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@cyneswith:don’t you think it’s a little “psycho girlfriend” to buy his wedding band already without even knowing for sure that you are going to marry him? I also think it is a little outrageous for you to demand an engagement ring like that. How can you walk out on someone after just 2 years because he may not be ready or because he couldn’t pay off the ring just yet? I dated my fiancee for 6 years before he proposed. I think you need to get a mani/pedi, relax and take a look at your relationship so you will see what a great guy you have and not push him into anything he may not want or be ready for. Not trying to be harsh, but I know what it’s like to want it really bad… 6 years…. But enjoy your time together and if it’s going to happen, it will. But you can’t put it or him on a timeline.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with soladylike.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t see anything wrong with it, I’d give him a little warning though.  Basically, told him what  you told us, but a little nicer. 😉

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Whoa.  If I were a guy and you hit me with that, I think I’d be walking!  It sounds like he’s probably doing his best to pay for that ring.  I don’t know if he can afford to put more towards it per month, but I’m going to guess he budgeted out what will work for him.

Cut the guy some slack.  He’s got a ring that he’s paying off.  It’s not like he’s blowing you off altogether! 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Just because he is only currently paying $100 a month doesn’t mean he always will.  Just like our credit card – some months we can only afford to pay the minimum balance, but other months we pay $500.  Especially with tax time, etc. 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I kind of like the idea of you taking matters into your own hands and proposing to him in a sweet way. Even if he wants the proposal experience, he can still do something special for you when he gets your ring.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I know you aren’t asking for advice, but slow down. I know you don’t want to wait a year and all, but like pp said, he may pay more on the ring over time. It will take him a minute with only $100, but you never know about tax time, a raise or something. He could add a lot soon.

Good luck either way!

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

So… Does he actually have the ring yet? Because if he does, you never know… He could propose before he’s done paying it off.

And like the other girls said… Some months you can only afford to pay so much, and then other months you can’t. My b/f has been saving money for a ring and told me that he could afford to save approx. $800 per month. But things come up that get in the way of his paying that much per month.

GVD

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