(Closed) I may have to spill the beans sooner than expected.

posted 9 months ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I mean… I understand you’re panicking right now but isn’t this exactly what most people in your last thread warned you about? You were so intent on hurting him because of how much he’s hurt you that you failed to really think through the logistics of your plan. That’s why we said it was best to be honest with him and live as roommates until you could move out. Now I think you’ll either have to come up with some other way to put him off or you have to come clean and tell him you’re done and live as roommates until the lease is up. 

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

You can still save money without pretending to still be in a serious relationship with someone so your argument is completely invalid. You are claiming this is your only option which is far from true.

You can live as roommates until the lease it up.

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

phillygirl93 :  well he can’t, you are both on the lease. 

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

phillygirl93 :  well you are both tenants with the same rights to the property, how could he kick you it?

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

phillygirl93 :  if you are on a lease your partner cannot kick you out. He is not your landlord. You are not paying him. You have equal rights to the apartment. 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

phillygirl93 :  That’s what a lease is. The only person who can kick you out is the landlord and even that can be rather difficult. 

And you can say all you want that you never wanted to hurt him, but I remember your thread. You were excited about hurting him. No point in denying it now. What’s done is done. I don’t even really fault you for wanting him to be completely blindsided by this whole thing, but my main problem from the get go with your last thread is that you weren’t really thinking things through. Revenge fantasies sound fun but they rarely work like they do in the movies. 

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

phillygirl93 :  plus I thought you couldn’t move out because you couldn’t afford to pay to break the lease…problem solved if he kicks you out anyway?

Post # 29
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Busy bee

phillygirl93 :  First of all, he cannot kick you out if you are on the lease. You have every right to the apartment, as does he.

Secondly, if he “kicks you out” then you should make it clear that you are not on the hook to pay to break the lease or to pay the rest of the lease out. If you need to leave, go to a friend or get a roommate off of CraigsList. It’s not like it’s that hard. I’ve done it before when I needed to leave a bad roommate situation. Philly is a big city, there are always people looking for roomates.

You should come clean to your B.F. Be honest, it’s the only thing to do at this point.

Post # 30
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Busy bee

You’re being awfully rude to people who are giving you perfectly good advice. You can break up with him and live as roommates until your lease ends. Your dilemma is largely imagined. He cannot kick you out; you have equal rights to the property.

As for where do you live when the lease is expired, start looking now. I live in Philly as well so I know that rents here can be very inexpensive. Find a roommate and a cheap place in South Philly or Kensington or something. 

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