Post # 1
I wrote “request the honor of your presence” in my DIY invites and our ceremony isn’t at a place of worship. They are already printed and half way finished. I don’t know why I didn’t catch this before!!! What should I do?
Post # 3
You can still request the honor of someone’s presence even if your ceremony isn’t at a place of worship.
Post # 4
I thought so too, but I’ve had a few family friends tell me it was a huge no no etiquette wise…
Post # 5
Hmm maybe it’s old fashioned etiquette? I would think that it would be an honor to have someone at your wedding no matter where it is.
Post # 6
I read that somewhere too. I don’t really know why it’s so though, and google couldn’t answer my question.
It’s your call whether your invitees will be offended.
Post # 7
I said that on my invites, and no one even noticed. lol. And we had a backyard wedding! Just keep printing them and don’t worry about it.
Post # 8
I don’t even understand the problem. Is it not an honour to be a guest at your wedding if it’s not in a church? Because I’d be offended by THAT scenario, not this one.
Post # 9
Uh, I don’t think it really matters. I’ve never heard of that rule.
Post # 10
It is correct etiquette to not use that wording, unless you are getting married at a church; however, most people won’t notice. I would change the wording on the ones that you have left to do and send the reworded ones to those people that you think would notice and send the already printed ones to those people that you don’t think will notice, or you can just keep printing them the way they are. We are sending ours out with request the honor of your presence and we are not getting married in a church; however, we are having a formal wedding, so I thought it would be appropriate. Also, we consider it an honor for anyone who shows up to our wedding to be there.
Post # 11
I’ve heard this rule, but I wouldn’t really worry about it. Supposedly for weddings not at a place of worship you’re supposed to say “request the pleasure of your company” instead.
Post # 12
That’s what we said for our outdoor manor wedding. No idea this was at all a thing, and if anyone else did, they didn’t say anything.
I feel like it has to be relatively uncommon for that to be an issue nowadays-the woman I worked with on our invites was VERY knowledgeable and I think it would have come up!
Post # 13
I personally would be honored with someone’s presence no matter where our ceremony was!! I say keep it!!
Post # 14
this is a rule, but very few people will notice. obviously a lot of people here didn’t even know about it, so most of your guests won’t either!