(Closed) I Messed Up…..BIG TIME

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 182
Member
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t really ever write on these things but I really wanted to say that I think we are wrong on all sides. I think that we’ve gone from being supportive,  to calling her husband borderline abusive, to calling her a cheater, to now saying she manipulative. I think that we just don’t have all the facts (and I’m not saying that’s our fault b/c I know many of you have tried to show genuine interest in getting them).

In the end, she needs to work this out with her husband. I think this can be a great site for advice, some tough love and great suggestions but in the end I think this thread is not doing what it’s supposed to be doing. 

I really hope that counselling (either couples or by yourself) is the way that you’ll go. 

Post # 183
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2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I love this thread. It had train wreck written all over it. 🙂 Whenever someone states they need to block a number to stop themselves from calling it- it turns into a great thread and takes 3-4 pages for people to see through the crap and start dishing out the tough love.

Post # 184
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92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@maureen9004: That’s because so much of it makes no sense ! Or we were led to believe from her OP that this was harmless. But when we found out the IT was a lover and a married one at that, a lot of girls got morally offended. Especially since OP isn’t answering a REALLY big question from Troubled.

Why doesn’t thinking about the ITs wife deter you from contacting the husband?

It is completely disrespectful and mean to continue to contact a married man after you made such a terrible intrusion into their marriage.

Post # 185
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@maureen9004: i cringe everytime i see a new post in this thread, but for some reason i can’t stop reading it.

Post # 186
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2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

@Bee-loved: On the first day someone mentioned her “other posts” quickly skimming over thosethis is someone who likes drama and attention from the opposite sex.

 What gets me is she’s still posting. If I ask a person advice and that person (or multiple people) bring up legitimate points that embarass me or go against what I’m thinking about the situation- I don’t keep talking about it. I take the criticism and fix the issue.

Post # 187
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4122 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I now know that shaking the iphone in hopes of getting info to sink in doesn’t work. Basically, I wish you luck. I have no clue what or who or why at thi point and the only thing I know for sure is that you need counseling an a lot of luck. I hope you find what you need before more lives are ruined… Or your own.

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