(Closed) I might be overreacting but need to vent!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh man! I’m sorry about all the pressure and craziness! Just keep in mind it will all be over soon 🙂

Defineately don’t put trust in people when it comes to wedding promises, it can go terribly wrong. Your dad should have the choice of where the rehearsal dinner is since he is paying.

Keep standing your ground and never be afraid to speak up. Your Mother-In-Law will probably always be like this and she needs to get used to where you stand !

Post # 4
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2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I can understand being upset and not wanting to have people over because your place is not ready for visitors. But your Future Mother-In-Law probably does not think that this includes her.

As for the rehearsal dinner it is perfectly acceptable to have it at a pizza place. It is also acceptable to go to a local restaurant. It is supposed to be the opposirte of the wedding itself. If you expect a lot of Out of Town family there maybe that is the problem.  I think the real issue here is the money and her not having it. It could very well be that she promised you money but does not have it. Have you taken that into account? Especially since you said she just took out a loan for her daughter’s wedding.

I am not trying to diminsh your feelings, but I think that money is the problem here, not anything else. As for the palce, yes she does get to choose the place. If you do not like where she chooses then you can pay for it instead.

Post # 5
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If your fiance’s parents are hosting the rehearsal dinner, then they get to decide where it is and what it is.  They don’t have any obligation to help you with the wedding or the furniture… I’m sorry that her Future Mother-In-Law said that she could.  

You guys are adults and can decide what to spend on furniture and what to spend on a honeymoon.  I’m not sure why your Mother-In-Law said that.  

As far as having guests over, it is your right to have people over when you see fit.  If they try to push it, just gently let them know that the apartment isn’t ready yet.

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