- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
A lot of things been happening in a short time, I moved to a different state and left my family and my house and state to be with my future hubby. We were in long distance for the past almost 5 years and we finally ended it about 3 weeks ago. I moved and stayed over at his parents house until we got our apartment and now life is much better having our own place ofcourse. However, its been tough on me planning this wedding that is coming so soon and dealing with being in a new state and not having my family and especially my mom here to finish all this planning 🙁
Also my FH works two jobs until I find a job, he leaves 7 in the morning and gets back home at 10 at night 🙁 and now he started school to finish his last two classes , he still gets home at night and we only get very few hours to spend at night. At times might not even be more than just an hour or so. I am very proud of him and I cant wait to get a job so we can have a normal life and especially for him to not be working that hard.
We only get the weekends to do anything, we are trying to furnish the apartment , we got couches and few kitchen stuff and a mattress , but we have tv on the floor and still need more furniture. We have our wedding stuff scattered in the dining area like wedding centerpieces..etc.
My Mother-In-Law and SIL want to come and visit so bad , one time they tried to bring kids with them to check out the apartment and visit the pool here, I was a bit uncomfortable showing off the place where we still need to clean more and furnish. I gave them an excuse and it was rainy that day so it worked somehow. However we made it clear me and my FH that we would like to get the place set up and stuff first then we can have people over. Mother-In-Law few days ago talked to him about sitting down and talking about the wedding , and she asked if they can do that over here!!!??? I am like what? We made it clear we are not accepting anyone yet because we arent comfortable yet! also , weekends are crazy busy for us to get things done for the wedding and at times they suggest all these crazy plans on weekends and stuff and I am like..we got a wedding to plan!! its not like we just sit down and relax on weekends!!
My second issue with Mother-In-Law is the rehearsal dinner. She wanted to have it at this pizza place. I was a bit shocked, becuase first, my parents are flying from a different state and never met his family and also my dad is paying for pretty much his whole family for the reception and he does not know any of them , yet he is paying for most of the wedding. My parents dont eat pizza and especially for a special night like that before the day of the wedding to eat pizza?? Also I bought a nice white dress to wear for rehearsal dinner and I wont be able to wear it at a place like that. I talked to FH about how I didnt picture it in a pizza place and my parents are different , it got to be a classy dinner (his family are different I guess). However, I dont want to be embarassed for my family meeting them the first time and be invited to whatever place. I asked if we can just go somehwere known like Olive garden or something , my family likes it. However, his mom chose not to and asked if we can do it at this other italian place. I was like okay let me check out this place , its local. The recent reviews are horrible about the pastas and the place looks a bit cheap and their prices are higher than Olive garden???
Oh and also his mom before I moved here, she promised to help us with the wedding and furniture because she took a loan out for his sisters wedding in May and promised to help us as well. Guess what?? she is stating that she is paying good amount for rehearsal dinner that she cant help with anything else. I am like really? now she realized that she is responsible for the rehearsal dinner?? My dad is paying about 7 Ks and mroe for the wedding for people that he does not know and she complains and choose whatever place for the rehearsal dinner?? My parents deserve better..I am sorry but they do.
On my bridal shower , his aunt (very sweet one) asked me if we are going on a a honeymoon. I was like yeah we are planning it to go Hawaii or puerto rico..or something. Mother-In-Law was like , oh thats nice hun but you gotta think , either furniture or that…. I am like really??!! You were supposed to help as you promised and no sorry but I will go on a honeymoon. My FH and I been in long distance and we are waiting for the wedding night to do anything ( yes we are saving it) and after dealing with very hard relationship , for me to come back to the apartment after my wedding?????
Gets on my nerves!!!….ugh , sorry I just needed to let it out…