- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
First, I want to say that I feel like the luckiest girl to be marrying my FH, and with all the sad stories in this thread I feel a little ridiculous for being even the teensiest bit disappointed, but I have to get it out and I just know you all will be able to make me feel better.
I was originally going to have a Destination Wedding in Panama, after a little courthouse thing on the anniversary of the day we met in May. My FH is there as I type this checking it out for us for Feb2014. He sent me an e-mail today telling me that it is a no go.
Here are the reasons he gave me:
“Now this is the bad news: I don’t think this is a place for a wedding.Multiple reasons. The place is wildly advanced considering how faroff the beaten path it is (the two boat rides are amazing but no joke)and it’s got a mean grade down to the water and the path is just dirt(read: not gonna happen in your wedding dress). It’s alsodefinitively no-old people territory for those reasons. Anyone who is addicted to society would probably hate it here too. In time we could landspace it and add the remainder ofwhat’s needed (finish the plumbing — which is far advanced already (1shower, second on the way, 2 bathrooms, 1 working already with afunctioning septic system) and connect electricity to everything (in 2of the 3 houses so far) to be very welcoming but that’s probably a 10person job requiring a week (I think he is underestimating)(it’s a lot). I just don’t know how many people we could truly put up here.
If we would have done it there we were planning on just paying for our transportation and buying food from the store and cooking a ton (FH is very good at this), ipod playlist, and since we would already be technically married, his brother in law would do the ceremony. It is his aunt’s property and has two cottages, a treehouse, and her house. So our very small guest list wouldn’t have to pay for a hotel. People were excited about it, except for my family of course…
At the end of the e-mail he said:
“Thinking about it, I think we should just do the courthouse andvisit Florida. If you have other thought’s, I’d really like to hear themthough.” That was so sweet of him to add that last part.
So I need more ideas….. something simple and really really affordable. Between the two of us we have $200k in student debt!!!!!!! Just him and I are going to the courthouse on May 6th, and going to Florida on May 17th to May 19th because that is when he has time off and I want him to meet my grandma and the rest of my family. If we do have a wedding there would probably be a max of 24 people including me and him. What could we do with 24 people on such short notice that would be super affordable?
We really didn’t want to do it in South Florida because I have terrible memories of it(abusive childhood), but it seems like I really have no choice. It was difficult for us both to even want to go visit there after the courthouse in the first place. I think if his friends and family come and we stay in a hotel together it could mitigate all that though…
What do you think bees?