(Closed) FH told me the DW spot is a no go and now he just wants a courthouse wedding. :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: With my budget (see below) Is it more realistic to
    suck it up and have a courthouse wedding and just celebrate with family afterwards in Florida? : (8 votes)
    47 %
    believe there is a way to have a wedding with my budget? : (9 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 4
    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Willing to help with the Florida angle (I myself was just recentlly married in Key West in The Keys… which By The Way has a very Caribbean feel even tho it is in the USA)

    So a couple of things we need to know

    1- South Florida memories… what do you consider to be South Florida?  The Keys – East Coast (Miami, Fort Lauderdale) – Gulf Coast (Marco Island – Sanibel – Fort Myers) ??  Can’t help with different suggestions if we don’t know exactly WHAT AREA you are looking to avoid

    2- Budget.  How much do you want to spend on this Wedding, and what expenses would that have to include

    3- People coming, what kind of budget are they looking at in regards to Hotel Accommodations (Florida has everything from $ 50 a night thru to $ 500+ per night)

    The more info you give us, the more help we can give you

    Hope this helps,



    Post # 7
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Do a potluck around home!  Think of it as a vintage theme– cake and punch.  Go all out 1950s if you want.  Home made decor, casseroles, the whole deal.  As many or as few people as you want, but have a little party. 

    If you want to do it elsewhere, look into places away from the beach.  Beach locations will just cost more.  Parks are great!  Or, look at the rules for beach weddings.  Do you need a permit, or can you do it free?

    Alternately, could your friends afford to rent a beach house?  You could do a tiny ceremony there (inviting family), and then stay there with your friends. 

    Or, how about a place like this in Miami on the river (not sure if it is free for your dates)? https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/44335  Lots of little cabins, and perhaps a little garden for a ceremony and casual reception?  (No, seriously, I’m kindof in love with this place).

    Or this? https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/688012



    Post # 9
    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Thanks for the UPDATE…

    Where to start ?

    First off here is the general info you need about marrying in Florida

    State of Florida – Marriage Guide = http://www.stateofflorida.com/Portal/DesktopDefault.aspx?tabid=30


    Choosing a location

    The Keys will generally be more expensive than Mainland Florida (mostly because of the Hotels in that will be in the $ 300 range)… same for the Atlantic Coast vs the Gulf Coast.  (Fort Lauderdale and most places are going to $ 250 a night).

    The Gulf Coast gives you more leaway… in that it is a tad furhter to the north, and there are plenty of great towns not just those clustered along the shoreline…

    Remember you can save tho, if you plan for the Wedding on the Beach, and the Accommodations / Reception more inland.

    Also, in some jurisdictions you cannot marry on the beach (City Ordinances).

    You’ll have to check what requirements are in place in any specific location… you can do that on their city websites.

    We planned a Destination Wedding also (lol, actually 2… when we ended up changing our plans from South Carolina to Florida) … you can use GOOGLE to find out a lot of info about being married in any particular Destination / City

    When we looking to plan our Wedding in Key West I found that checking out the local OFFICIAL Tourism Website gave me some good general info to get me started, as well… (every major city / tourist region has one)

    I also, GOOGLED – Marrying in Key West – and got lots of general info, as long as listings for Wedding Officiants / Planners

    That was ultimately how I found a Wedding Officiant… we used a full-service package (remember to also check for Reviews on-line … including here on WBee… BEFORE you make any bookings / deposits, because sadly there are unscrupulous folks in the Wedding Planning Industry)

    Mind you, in our case we knew Key West well… having visited there before, so we didn’t go into the whole process blind.  We for example, knew the lay of the land, where we wanted to marry (which Beach), and the Hotels (including where we planned to stay).  And in our case we were Eloping, so there were just the two of us, and no full reception to organize, or guests to help with accommodations etc.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 11
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @jessiebean:  Good for you!  You should enjoy your wedding, and if it is too much stress, you won’t. 

    Post # 12
    927 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I send this link to everyone who seems sad about a courthouse wedding:

    Our Vintage-Inspired Courthouse Wedding (Sept. 14, 2012) – PRO PICS!

    Your day will be wonderful & special – try to still get a photographer, flowers, mini-cake & dress you love for the courthouse, you’ll want those memories. All the fluff of weddings is wonderful, but ultimately…completely unnecessary! You’re marrying the man you love, your wedding will be the happiest day of your life, and you’ll still get to celebrate with your family afterwards! If you have bad memories tied to FL then I think it’s best you don’t have your ceremony there anyway…your wedding should be all good things & happiness.

    Post # 13
    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I LOVE the link that VioletSky:  has provided… I have seen it previously here on WBee, and indeed it shows how incredible a Couthouse Wedding can be.

    Mr TTR and eloped… so there was just the 2 of us… and we got married on a Beach at sunset.

    BUT we also made it OUR DAY … so as to make it memorable.  Beyond the location and the setting, we kept it simple, but still incorporated many “Wedding” elements…

    I visited the Salon in the AM (Hair & Makeup) – We both got dressed up (I even wore a Wedding Dress… and I’m an Encore Bride over 50) – I had a bouquet of flowers – we had a Professional Photographer – and went out for a meal afterwards at a favourite highend ROMANTIC Restaurant … and enjoyed a special dessert together.  Came back to our AMAZING Hotel Suite, and sat on our Balcony sipping Champagne.  It was a super amazing day.

    In the end your Wedding Day is what you make of it, IMO

    And then of course you can celebrate afterwards with Friends & Family however you like… as there are NO REAL RULES when it comes to Back Home Receptions / Parties… you can make that as elaborate or simple as you like (very Wedding-ish or not).  And the best thing is, I find that AFTER THE WEDDING that you’ll have less stress that comes from family issues… as the Big Day is over, so everyone has given up the ghost on pushing their agendas !!

    So ya, there are certainly benefits to having a small intimate Wedding


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