(Closed) I might need an attitude check

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
2879 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Comeonalready: because the love of your life asked you to spend you life with him is reason enough for most.

Post # 3
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Comeonalready:  Maybe you could do something there that the other couple hasn’t done? So, if they said they went there for the spa then you say you went there for the fall color. Just make it different somehow. 

P.S. I got engaged in Central Park in NYC (where probably hundreds of people get engaged each year) but it was still special because it was MY engagement. Even if you do all the same things that this other couple did, it will still be special  because it is yours.

Post # 4
1017 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Wonder if… the smartass guy took your SO’s idea and just beat him to it!? 

Don’t worry about it, every proposal is special and different even if they happen in the same place

Post # 6
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think that BEFORE the proposal, it’s fine to say what you would prefer to avoid. If you don’t want to be proposed to on your birthday, or at the spot your arrogant friend proposed, you should say so. I think if a woman knows she would hate to get a proposal in a baseball stadium, or via a ring hidden in her food or drink, she should give the guy a heads-up just to be on the safe side.

If he proposes in a way you don’t like, I always say to just enjoy being engaged. Since you aren’t though, and this is important to you, there’s no reason you can’t say something. 

Post # 7
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hate to tell you there aren’t really many places that haven’t been used as engagement spots.  What makes it imporant are the people and the intent.  Think of all the people who have gotten engaged on the beach, are their engagements any less special?  No, because the people and their relationship make it unique.  As for your ‘friend’ I’d look at it as it’s really too sad that he has to make himself feel better by putting your proposal down.  

Post # 8
5 posts
  • Wedding: Beach

Rather than looking at it as something one ‘stole’ from the other, or not original… it’s going to be something that you will share with your friends.  Maybe this one’s personality means some teasing and sarcasm… just go with it.  In the end you will be more likely to laugh and smile with your good friends over it than be antagonistic.

Try to push this out of your mind, and enjoy the moment between you and your SO. That is what you are there for!

Post # 9
135 posts
Blushing bee

Let me just start out by saying, I was previously married. My ex kind of had a crew of friends, and within that circle, there were some smartasses.  I still know these people and still have memories of things being compared, (ie ring sizes, vacations, wives…). You get the picture. That stuff will never go away.  So you have to remember that you and your SO are in this together.  Nothing that anyone else says or does should ever matter.  So what he takes you to the same place.  SO WHAT!! It’s not about this other jerk.  It’s about the love of your life and you spending your lives together!!!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  fitchick89.
Post # 10
8727 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It is only a competition if you make it one. 

Post # 11
8 posts

Let me tell you, I recently got really emotional with my significant other about marriage stuff, and it resulted in him having a brief period of uncertainty and wanting to postpone things. Talk about putting things in perspective..

When it really comes down to it, the proposal doesn’t matter. The wedding doesn’t even really matter. The fact that the man you want to spend your life with wants to spend his life with you – and that you two are actually going to do it.. that’s what matters.

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