Post # 1
My best friend told me I might need it in flashing lights in order to really get it. It might have to do with abandonment issues that I am actively working on overcoming but long story short: My man and I used to live together. I moved out on October 1’st after consant arguing which I now see I was largely responsible for. I have been in agony these past couple months missing him and wondering if we would get back together. We have been talking on the phone however every now and then.
Last Monday we met for the first time since Oct. and it was like magic! We didn’t really talk about the past or the future, but on a scale of 1-10 I would say the “date” was a 10. The next day he emailed me and told me he woke up crying, that he would be keeping his opinions to himself from now on and that he will definitely be working on changes he needs to make. Good sign right? I guess I’m looking for guidance and reassurance cuz I really want to be with him!!!
Post # 3
That seems like a good sign to me. It sounds like you both are working on things that contributed to your break up.
There is nothing wrong with taking things slow, but I would be a but more open about your desire of actually wanting to get back together so you are both on the same page. But he woke up crying…i would say he is willing to give it another shot.
Post # 4
I’m glad you’re working through your issues, but why would you want to be in a relationship where your SO would need to walk on eggshells and keep their opinions to themselves?
My husband and I often have conflicting opinions, and sometimes we feel very passionately and/or the “other person is wrong”, but I would never in twenty billion years tell him that I wanted him to keep his opinions to himself. We have a very solid foundation and thrive with excellent communication, so that would seems really counterproductive to me.
Post # 5
@Hyperventilate: hey..no it’s not that I don’t want him to give his opinions..but before it was like everything I said he would shoot it down and negate it. I almost feel like for a time things got really serious and he pulled waaaay back while I was desperate for things to go back to “normal.” I almost feel like he was pushing to see how far he could push…
Post # 6
@sda519: Sadly, I am inclined to believe he is stringing you along. He seems to take you for granted and you seem to be sacrificing more than you are getting. Sometimes a man is quick to propose and slow to get married because a proposal gets him what he wants and he realises he’s not that into you. I feel sad reading the way he has been treating you and wish you the very best.