(Closed) I might propose myself!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

First of all, I think you’re brave going against the norm of men proposing to women.  I proposed to my fiance, and it was a very raw, vulnerable moment when I asked him (he said yes!)

I LOVE your Thai food proposal idea.  My guy also wanted a more personal, private proposal, and I think the proposal at home is excellent!  My Fiance and I did discuss me proposing beforehand- we did it in the spirit of equality as he asked me out first.  For me, as long as the couple loves each other, that’s all that matters.  I would also say that maybe by proposing yourself, you’re taking a huge weight off of his shoulders!  I personally say go for it and ask him.  I have heard of other couples who proposed to each other as well.  You know your SO best and what you think he would like- I think you’re already being thoughtful with the proposal plan.  It sounds like you are a strong, caring person and that your SO is lucky to have you.  Go for it!

Post # 5
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Good luck!!! I think it’s awesome that you’re going to propose.

Post # 6
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You can do it!  I’m glad everyone supports your relationship.  I’d pick blase over drama anytime.  The passive thing didn’t work for me either!  Best of luck to you.

Post # 7
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you should totally do it!  Good for you for bucking the tradition πŸ˜‰  Let us know when he says yes!!

Post # 8
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2023

YES! Do it!

I proposed to my bloke, and it was one of the best things I could have done. I love the Thai food idea. You know what he likes better than any of us, so I don’t think there’s any advice I can give as to how or when etc

Just let us know know how it goes!

Post # 9
808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

How fun!  I tested this out a few months ago with Boyfriend or Best Friend and he was VERY much against it…I guess he is more traditional than I thought, who knew?  He wants to be the one to propose, so I had to let that idea go. πŸ™‚

I would say you know your man best and if he’ll be excited, I think it’s an amazing thing to do!


Good luck!  Let us know how it goes!

Post # 10
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

ooh! yes! do it!  How perfect!  Waiting is hard…take the situation into your own hands!! πŸ™‚  I think he might love it (based on what you described).  Personally, my FH would have not liked to be proposed to, but that is just because he is SUPER traditional (which I love).  Yay, so excited for you!  Please keep us updated~!!!!!!

Post # 11
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

YES! Another one for Team LadyProposals! I’m right there with ya’, going man ring shopping myself soon πŸ˜‰ GOOD LUCK!

Post # 13
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My Fiance wouldnt wear a ring either. He keeps trying his wedding ring on trying to get used to it which I appreciate. 

He’s a procrastinator too. We knew we were going to get married, discusses colours, looked at venues and cakes… I mentioned that I thought he’d forget to ever actually get round to proposing. He said he wouldn’t but I think he would have done if not for my ribbing of him. 

Post # 14
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just out of curiousity, how often do you bring up engagements/weddings with him? My Fiance would casually talk about it, but it was more me bringing it up. I thought he was going to propose. We looked at rings, he wrote down the one I wanted, and 5 months later, we broke up. We ended up getting back together after 3 months, I tried my hardest not to talk about engagements/weddings and a few months later he proposed. We were together for 3.5 years (excluding the break-up) before I finally got that proposal.

Long story short, he was really stressed out and nervous about it, but as soon as I stopped talking about it, he started coming around. For all you know, he may have a plan or time in mind. 

I honestly think that if deep down you wish he would propose, then you should not. I think you will feel regret over how everything went down.

I’m sorry you are ging through this. I know how extremely difficult waiting is. It’s summer, take up a new hobby or exercise and try to keep your mind off of it. Hugs XX

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