Post # 17
I just read all your anonymous posts and I think you did what you had to do in breaking up with him. I think the issues could be workable if he WANTED to change, but I don’t think he does. Like you said, he’s comfortable with his life. When I read what you wrote about him the word that comes to mind is “weak.” As much as you love each other, this doesn’t look like a “lifetime match” for YOU based on the things you’ve written. I think you want and deserve more than that in your life partner.
Is there any way you can get another job or switch locations so you don’t see him so much? That’s got to be making it way harder to move on.
Post # 18
I can’t really change locations. I was rehired at this location because I had worked there before and everyone knew me. I wouldn’t be able to transfer (there is only one other location in town and I was recently promoted at my current one).
I think what a lot of you guys have said is right, and I know its right in my heart. I’m truly not second guessing my decision. After we broke up he never tried to get me back. If the person I loved told me I needed to get my butt in gear or they would lose me, I would do anything in my power to show them how much they meant to me. Is he sad when he sees me at work? Yes. But did he ever call me to tell me that? Or go to credit counseling? No and no. His financial problems have not improved since the breakup, which I know because all of his mail for our accounts, everything, still gets sent to my address.
I know he isn’t the right partner for me, but I suppose I’m just having a hard time dealing with the very ADULT idea that someone can love you, and you can love them, and they still aren’t right for you. That sucks, you know?
Post # 19
I understand – it has to be incredibly hard (even more so because you see him so often still).
Has it gotten any easier with time?
Post # 20
You’re right—you can love someone, they can love you, and it still won’t ever be right. It does suck. Keep remembering him playing Call of Duty while the bill collectors call.
You are always welcome at Weddingbee! ::hugs::