(Closed) I miss my husband!

posted 9 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I feel your pain, my FH got deployed 6 months after we stared dating. Then the next year we spent 6000 miles away, then two days after the wedding he leaves for training. HUGS.

Post # 4
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2007

I can’t begin to imagine how you feel, but I just want to say that I appreciate what your husband, and other servicemen/servicewomen, and all the other military wives on the board go through. ::HUG::

Post # 5
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134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s so tough – just try to remember that each day that passes is another day closer to seeing him again! My fiance and I have been on opposite sides of the Atlantic this year, so I haven’t seen him since January 3 (but I should see him about a month from now).

 I imagine that right after the wedding I *really* won’t want to be without him! When his first times out in the field and especially his first deployment come up, it’s going to be a big reality check. I can’t relate yet to having my husband away, but just try to keep busy and focus on the positives as much as you can! 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

My Boyfriend or Best Friend just got back from training in NC so I can relate.  I’m used to him being gone bc of the distace between us but the thing that I found to be the hardest was the lack of communication.  So I got busy; I spent time with my girlfriends and my family, signed up for softball at work, and started hitting the gym.  ANYTHING to keep moving!

On top of that I started writing to him in a journal.  Written communcation is really special to us because it’s how we fell in love and it’s something I plan on giving to him one day, maybe for the next deployment.  It was really a good way to unwind and get all my feelings out at the end of a long day. 

Making plans for his return is good too, it doesn’t have to be big (because sometimes making long term plans with someone who is in the military can be a little tricky) but something to look forward to.  When my Boyfriend or Best Friend came back from Iraq last year I took him to dinner in a restauarant that I wanted to try, and I waited until he was back so we could try it together. 

Also, I agree with K610–each day you spend apart, is another day closer to seeing him!

Hope this helps!

Post # 8
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538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens

@mdarrah I love that picture! Soooo romantic~

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I totally know how you feel! My hubby deployed for 6 months only 3 months after we met. We’ve been together for a little over two years now and he’s been gone on deployments for about half of that time. I know how hard it can be to be away from the man you love. And it’s definitely harder when he’s your husband!

I just dropped my hubby off on base this morning. He’ll be gone for about a month, then back for a month, then he leaves for another 6 month deployment. And we’ve only been married 4 months! i know it’s going to be tough not having my hubby around for 6 whole months, and I’m unemployed as well, so the time just goes by so much more slowly. But what has always helped me during my hubby’s absences is to keep busy, especially by keeping myself surrounded by friends. I tend to go out a lot more with my friends during DH’s deployments as that makes the time go by faster and my friends offer a lot of support and encouragement, and a great distraction too! Or I keep busy by doing my papercrafting or just finding things around the house to do. Anything to get my mind off the fact that the hubby is away, even if only for a few hours a day. It’s tough, but you’ll make it through. It can feel like your heart is being ripped out sometimes from missing your man so much, but that just makes your time together so much sweeter, and so much more appreciated! Think about how great it will be when you see your husband again and you’ll get through your separation.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Oh, and be glad you can talk to your Darling Husband for 30 mins every night! I’ll only be getting a few emails and NO PHONE CALLS while my hubby is away. That must be nice at least being able to talk to him!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh i totally understand! Sending hugs your way! My Fiance spent 15 months deployed and we spent the last 3.5 years apart. Take it one day at a time! Put it in perspective as much as you can. I reasoned with myself all the time. That’s all you can do. It’s good to reminisce and whatnot, but don’t dwell on it all so much that it just completely bums you out like crazy. You know how a watched pot never boils? Well, the same perspective applies! I think it’s wonderful you get to talk every night though. Be grateful for that! My Fiance and I got 30 minute phone calls every Saturday, that was it. Email is a wonderful thing nowadays! I always reminded myself that no matter how hard it is, it was harder for women our mom’s age and our grandma’s ages and I had no right to be as upset. Which isn’t true, but it’s how I kept myself from getting out of hand and letting his deployment basically ruin my life. I didn’t want to be a depressed mess for 15 months so I reasoned myself out of it! hahaha. Hey whatever works. And it’s temporary at least. 6 weeks will go by so fast, I promise. It doesn’t seem like it now though. We’ve been toghether 4.5 years now…and i wonder where the time has all gone. 

You HAVE to find a hobby. Something to do besides sitting at home all day, that just makes it worse!!! Hit the gym up and let him know how great you’ll look by the time he gets home. If you’re anything like me, you probably would rather sit and eat ice cream all night though

Good luck! Sometimes separation like this just makes you realize how happy you are with the man you have, though. It can be a good thing =]

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I love your wedding colors!

Post # 14
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340 posts
Helper bee

I know how you feel. My Fiance is in Afghanistan right now. He left at the begining of March and won’t get his midtour leave/R&R until December! He is there for a year. So it sucks really bad. Plus he is Airborne Infantry so I can’t even feel like he has a safe MOS, his whole job is to fight. Blah, maybe I am just feeling super down right now because he has been on a mission for a while and I haven’t heard from him at all in a few days. 🙁

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@mdarrah: Is he back yet??

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