(Closed) I miss my mom…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m so sorry =( I know it’s not easy but the end result will be that you get to marry the man of your dreams.. I’m not really close to anyone but my Fiance and son so I don’t know what your dealing with exactly but I can imagine the pain I’d feel if I lost one of them. I hope your okay.

Post # 4
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2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I lost my mom a couple years ago and understand how the grief sort of dampens any excitement toward your wedding. It really does get better, but the grief never really goes away. Vent, cry, scream, do what you have to do to get it out. All I can say is that you have your Fiance and a new family to look forward to, and she will watch over you in spirit and share in your day in her way. ::hugs::

Post # 4
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1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am very sorry for your loss. I am going through the same thing. My mom passed several years ago it is sad to be planning this wedding without her. I am planning on having a picture of my parents (my dad passed a couple years before my mom) up at the alter, and lighting a candle for them during our ceremony. I think it will just help me honor them, and also feel like they are a part of the ceremony too, at least in spirit. You might do that too, or carry something that belonged to your mom with you. Just know in your heart that she is smiling down on your wedding and would truly be happy for you.

Post # 6
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921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i know exactly how you feel. my mom passed right before christmas from “suicide” we know that wasnt the case but cant prove otherwise. she was so happy for me and loved when i called her a million times a day to talk about wedding stuff. she had already booked her hotel room out here and everything and now im totally crushed when i do wedding stuff i have no one to call all happy. i almost canceled the big wedding thing to elope but my Fiance told me he wouldnt let me cus he knew i would regret it. he forced me to go to a bridal show and i came back in full swing. i cant say it will get better cus it wont but it will start to hurt a little less. im pretty sure thats where it stops though cus losing my mom hurts like hell every tiime i think about her.

Post # 7
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5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@LittleDee27: I am soooo sorry. Your post made me tear up. I lost my aunt to cancer very suddenly and she was like my second mom. It’s never easy losing someone. She will always be there with you, especially on your big day. You are in my thoughts, just please know people are thinking of you. (((hugs)))

Post # 8
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2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am soo sorry too. I can understand, I lost my Mum 4 years ago, I dont know how I would have managed had it happened when i was planning my wedding. 

Makesure you cry…..heaps….it helps! 

I’ll keep you in my thouights.

 

Post # 9
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6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@LittleDee27: I feel for you so much. Youve got my prayers and hugs.  I’m glad you sense her spirit with you and know that she will absolutely be a part of your wedding day.

I think its a wonderful idea to honor her somehow in the ceremony with a photo or in any other way you choose.

We are always here to listen whenever you need to vent…

 

Post # 10
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

When I lost my grandfather (who was my inspiration and like a second father to me), i coped with some of my grief by writing him letters…starting with by hand, on beautiful paper, and sealed them in envelopes (I ended up burning those when i moved, because I couldn’t bear to read about my grief when i was feeling a bit better, 2 years later) almost every day, then less frequently on looseleaf and scrap paper, and eventually on the computer.  I still have a hidden file with little notes to him, even though now I only do it every couple of months, when something important happens.  Its something that really helped me because I am not religious, I don’t pray, and it felt like I was connected to him through the letters.  Not saying it will work for everyone…but as @simpleandchic said you have to cry — and boy did the tears come when i wrote!

Best of luck with wedding planning…i hope that it too helps you cope with your grief a bit.  My thoughts are with you x

Post # 11
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I”m so sorry, that’s incredibly difficult to deal with so soon before your wedding.

My father passed away 4 years ago, and I’m trying to figure out how to honor him at my upcoming wedding…but I can practically guarantee a mention of Dad during an already emotionally-charged time will end in tears. It’s hard to figure out something that honors the man but won’t leave me a wreck.

Peace and strength to you, LittleDee!

Post # 15
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5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sending huge hugs your way.  I’m so sorry.  Your mom was lucky to have such a loving daughter.

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