Post # 1
I just needed a place to complain a bit, and everyone here is so good at allowing for complaining. 🙂 So thanks all in advance.
So, I currently live in a 3 bedroom apartment with my fiance and 2 friends, and honestly, the place has always felt big…even having parties with 30 or so people have felt good, and not so crowded. And yet, the past few days…well, my fiance’s parents are staying with us, and have been here since Wednesday (and will be until Sunday). They’re nice enough people, and yet, not people I FULLY relate to, or feel completely comfortable being myself around. But I think the biggest challenge is not being able to sleep in my own bed, which I miss surprisingly a lot. We gave his parents our room, with the intention of sleeping in the living room. Though his parents stay up late, so I’ve been sleeping in my friend’s room while she’s away for the weekend…it’s very nice that she’s sharing with me, but her bed is a metal loft bed…squeeky, uncomfortable, and requiring a ladder to get up to it. So, not ideal.
It’s not SUPER late now, but I just had a realization that once again, I’m not going to be able to sleep in my bed, or the next night, or the next night. And that’s a bummer. 🙁 and I just want to have my space back, and my bed, and have my cat be able to sleep with me again. And I want to stop being hostess, and stop trying to make conversation all the time and having to be “on” all the time.
Ok, that’s it for now. 🙂 Thank you.
Post # 3
Oooh poor you! That sucks! DH’s mom has stayed with us for a week or so at a time for various reasons and man, it’s stressful!!! 48 more hours and it’ll be done! Two sleeps! You can do it!
Post # 4
requiring a ladder to get up to it.
hehehe im sorry but this made me laugh – hopefully sunday will come soon for you
Post # 5
I don’t blame you. I like having my space as well. I live in a 3 bedroom trailer, but only one bedroom has a bed, and that’s mine : ) It’s not that I don’t like having company, it’s just the people who’ve inquired about staying over have the tendency to be nosy and I don’t want that, so I just tell them I don’t have anywhere for them to sleep.
Post # 6
Oh that does suck! It stresses me out when the future-in-laws visit us too. We don’t really have a space issue, so they stay in the spare bedroom, but I get stressed out regardless. The were here for the last few days and just left this morning.
My Future Mother-In-Law cleans our house EVERY time she is over. Even if it is already clean, she vacuums and washes dishes and mops and dusts and washes walls sometimes. It drives me crazy. I know she is trying to be helpful and has good intentions, but honestly, to me it feels like I am not good enough as a “housewife” and she feels the need to clean up after me. She buys a bunch of crap that she leaves here for us to eat (and we don’t buy much junk food ourselves). She also buys new stuff for our house randomly and without asking us – for example, we came home today from work (they had already left to go home) and found a new set of bedding and a new comforter for our spare bedroom. Yesterday, I came home and she had done our laundry and gone into our bedroom (whose door I left shut because it is a disaster – I have clothes everywhere!) to put our clothes away for us. Yep – I came home to a pile of my freshly washed, neatly folded underwear on my bed. SERIOUSLY?! My Future Mother-In-Law washed my dirty undies! I know she has good intentions, but HELLO! There are certain boundaries…and she has crossed them. I think I am going to have to get my Fiance to talk to her about this. We need boundaries or this is going to drive me crazy forever!
Post # 7
@bakerella: and @dance: thanks for the validation and stories of your own. For some reason, sometimes I forget that I’m the only one feeling a bit ahhhh about taking on new family. And having to suddenly like them a whole bunch because of that. I guess it’s nice to be reminded that they can be nice people and also bring about frustrated feelings.
@eloping: yeah, ladder…nice huh? i’m impressed (or maybe unsure?) about her decision to keep using this bed. well, i know her reasons but still…i enjoy the lack of exercise that getting into bed requires.
@SouthernGirl: I can’t imagine being in a trailer and having to share the space with people. I’ve been in a few trailers, and though there are some nice and spacious ones, it seems like having others around would make it feel so cramped PRETTY quickly.