Post # 1
I used to be a waiting bee– for 2 years. I was on here for that long waiting and then finally in October got engaged. Being engaged is as nice as I thought it would be and was worth the long wait, but Weddingbee outside of the waiting board isn’t the same. I miss the (mostly) nonjudgemental support and understanding the waiting bees give each other– it’s not like that when you’re writing about wedding stuff.
Anyway, I miss you all and miss the sense of community, even if it is built around something that for many of us is painful at times. It’s really great that this board exists!
Post # 2
I miss you too! Thank you soo much for coming back and saying hello. I needed to hear that you waited for two years. I’m currently at 13 months waiting and feel a little disheartened. You must be sooo strong to wait two years and I remember when you got engaged. It made me happy to see someone else who was waiting finally get engaged.
Post # 4
Waiting for two years was fairly rotten at times, but a few months before we got engaged I realized that I had been wanting to get engaged for the first year or so of waiting for the wrong reasons, as I was going through a lot of stress from grad school and having to live away from my now-FI for much of each week. . . . Waiting for a long time is very stressful. I think the best thing for me was to do things with my partner that reminded me that we really do go together very well, we get along, and we love each other very much. Focus on the good things about the relationship now. It’s way too easy to get furious and dissatisfied and stressed and be so negative about it that you lose sight of the good things which is why you want to get engaged in the first place. . . not saying you specifically have this trouble, but it is something I struggled with and I know a lot of waiting bees do too.
Post # 5
aww I miss you being on the list, but am so glad you are engaged!! I am at the end of my waiting- less than 3 months to go!! but the new wedding bee isn’t the same. I don’t recognize half the bees and I miss the waiting list. A lot of the bees that I’ve waited with are engaged or have left! It makes me sad sometimes.
Post # 6
I’m also missing these boards. The support was more than wonderful!!
Post # 7
I’m an ex waiting bee and I remember you from over there! I was under a different username though lol
Post # 8
That’s exciting that you’re near the end of your waiting!!! Very good! I agree that the new weddingbee isn’t the same– one’s posts disappear a lot faster, get fewer replies, and the whole thing is just hard to get used to (hard to use period is how I actually feel but I’m trying to give it a chance). I felt like the waiting board was a manageably small and relatively close-knit community, but the wider forums are quite sprawling and you never know what someone is going to (potentially judgementally) say about something you need advice on.
I’ve definitely been here a lot less since they changed the website.
I know!! There’s really nothing to compare it to.
I think you had the same picture, though? I think I recognize the avatar and I’ve seen your new name on the wedding boards, but I of course have no idea what your name used to be!
Post # 9
I’m a waiting bee but somehow got deleted from the new list! You are still welcome to share your thoughts and feelings with us!!