Post # 1
Today my mother generiously sent me money via PayPal for my wedding, and I realized that I misspelled her name on our invitation!
It is not the matter of one letter, but only she (and a few family members) will know since it is the normal spelling of that name.
If I get the invitations reprinted, it will cost me $287 +tax (they’re letterpress) and will cause me to likely be behind my already tight mailing schedule. I am splitting the money she spent with my fiance, and my portion will not quite pay for the reprinting.
Mostly, this makes me really sad! I didn’t grow up with my mother, and only visited her on holidays.
I probably can’t blame the mixup on the printer, since I think I hand wrote the same name on her save the date. (And perhaps for the last 28 years??)
What should I do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
If you already made the mistake on her hand written save the date and she wasn’t mortally offended, she probably wont be on the invites either. Seriously, it’s a typo, she will probably care more about the fact that you’re being responsible with your money.
I would recommend calling her and apologizing though– it is kind of a bummer…
Post # 4
Can you get just one (or a few) reprinted to send to her? It doesn’t sound like she’ll know what everyone else’s invitations say.
Post # 5
Does your mom care if it’s spelled the “original” way or “her” way?
I would explain to my mom what happened and ask her how she felt about it. If she’s okay with it being the “original” way then I say keep it like it is.
Post # 6
@Mrs.DBee: that’s a good idea if it’s possible.
^I second this idea.
That said, you already made the mistake once on her save the date (and possibly your whole life) and she hasn’t said anything… I think it’s fine, but I would call and apologise, she might be used to it being spelled wrong if it’s an unusual spelling so it might not bother her.
Post # 7
I had something similar happen with my MIL’s name but it wasn’t on our invitations, just the programs (it was a capitalization error that she felt the need to point out). I ended up just reprinting enough programs for DH’s immediate family since they were the only ones who would notice or give a crap about such a small “typo”. Would it be possible to do something like this and just reprint enough to send to your mom and her family members who would notice? There’s no point in spending all that money to reprint them all when the error won’t be obvious to anyone else.
Post # 8
I’d reprint them, because I’d be embarrassed about misspelling my mother’s name. But if you’re okay with it and you ask your mom and she’s okay with it, then I guess it would be fine.
Post # 9
@Mrs.DBee: Beat me to it. 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
@Mrs.DBee: fabulous idea. You are a genius!
Post # 11
I don’t think you should reprint them. If she brings it up just apologize.
Post # 12
I’d be pissed if I paid and my name was spelled wrong. Its a real sign of disrespect.
Just because she was polite and didn’t point out your error the first time doesn’t mean she didn’t care. It only means she was polite.
I’d be embarrassed, reprint them, and accept that 287 was the price of my error.
Post # 13
I hate Hate HATE seeing my name spelled incorrectly. If a family member were to make the error on the outside of an envelope, I probably wouldn’t call and ccorrect them. But if we are talking about an invitation or other “formal document” and my name was spelled in the “traditional” (i.e. American vs. European) spelling I would be mad. And hurt. Though I wouldn’t say anything to the person responsible – there wouldn’t be a reason to do that – I would feel as though they didn’t care enough to get it right.
Post # 14
Thank you for your responses. There is actually no reason I should know the spelling since she uses a shortened version of her name on a day-to-day basis, and as I mentioned before, she didn’t raise me. I am only somewhat certain of how many siblings she has. I felt horrible when I realized the mistake.
Unfortunately, I cannot print only a few invitations since they are letterpress and the minimum is 50. I think I will just call her with another question, and mention this as well. It is unusual for us to talk.
My mother did not help me plan the wedding, and she is not coming to the rehearsal dinner or my shower. I know that it sounds awful that I don’t know my mother’s name, but there is a reason for this.
Post # 15
Big time oops!! I would re-print. it would be sort of insulting not to.
Post # 16
Stuff like this happens; that’s a lot of money to do a total reprint…maybe just reprint a few, like an OP suggested?
My sister’s middle name is spelled “Michele” with one l, and her husband’s mom took care of the invites and guess what? “Michelle” was printed on all of them. She really didn’t care, and it was something she later could tease him about.