(Closed) I misspelled my mother's name

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I reprint the invites?
    Yes! It's your mother! : (46 votes)
    50 %
    No! It's a waste of time and money! : (32 votes)
    35 %
    What kind of person doesn't know her own mother's name? : (14 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    If you already made the mistake on her hand written save the date and she wasn’t mortally offended, she probably wont be on the invites either.  Seriously, it’s a typo, she will probably care more about the fact that you’re being responsible with your money.  

    I would recommend calling her and apologizing though– it is kind of a bummer… 

    Post # 4
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Can you get just one (or a few) reprinted to send to her? It doesn’t sound like she’ll know what everyone else’s invitations say.

    Post # 5
    902 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Does your mom care if it’s spelled the “original” way or “her” way?


    I would explain to my mom what happened and ask her how she felt about it.  If she’s okay with it being the “original” way then I say keep it like it is.


    Post # 6
    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Mrs.DBee:  that’s a good idea if it’s possible.

    ^I second this idea.

    That said, you already made the mistake once on her save the date (and possibly your whole life) and she hasn’t said anything… I think it’s fine, but I would call and apologise, she might be used to it being spelled wrong if it’s an unusual spelling so it might not bother her.

    Post # 7
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I had something similar happen with my MIL’s name but it wasn’t on our invitations, just the programs (it was a capitalization error that she felt the need to point out). I ended up just reprinting enough programs for DH’s immediate family since they were the only ones who would notice or give a crap about such a small “typo”. Would it be possible to do something like this and just reprint enough to send to your mom and her family members who would notice? There’s no point in spending all that money to reprint them all when the error won’t be obvious to anyone else.

    Post # 8
    13010 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’d reprint them, because I’d be embarrassed about misspelling my mother’s name.  But if you’re okay with it and you ask your mom and she’s okay with it, then I guess it would be fine.

    Post # 9
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Mrs.DBee:  Beat me to it. 🙂

    Post # 10
    4193 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    @Mrs.DBee:  fabulous idea. You are a genius!

    Post # 11
    368 posts
    Helper bee

    I don’t think you should reprint them. If she brings it up just apologize.

    Post # 12
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’d be pissed if I paid and my name was spelled wrong. Its a real sign of disrespect.

    Just because she was polite and didn’t point out your error the first time doesn’t mean she didn’t care. It only means she was polite.

    I’d be embarrassed, reprint them, and accept that 287 was the price of my error.

    Post # 13
    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @andielovesj:  This.

    I hate Hate HATE seeing my name spelled incorrectly.  If a family member were to make the error on the outside of an envelope, I probably wouldn’t call and ccorrect them.  But if we are talking about an invitation or other “formal document” and my name was spelled in the “traditional” (i.e. American vs. European) spelling I would be mad.  And hurt.  Though I wouldn’t say anything to the person responsible – there wouldn’t be a reason to do that – I would feel as though they didn’t care enough to get it right.

    Post # 15
    127 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Big time oops!! I would re-print.  it would be sort of insulting not to. 

    Post # 16
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Stuff like this happens; that’s a lot of money to do a total reprint…maybe just reprint a few, like an OP suggested?

    My sister’s middle name is spelled “Michele” with one l, and her husband’s mom took care of the invites and guess what? “Michelle” was printed on all of them. She really didn’t care, and it was something she later could tease him about.

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