- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2022 - City, State
My fiance and I met on January 1, 2012 and were just friends until November 2013. We started dating (LDR) and we visted for long periods of time where we lived together in the same house. I bought a house in the town where Fiance lived and my kids and I spent 2 months there last summer (my Fiance moved in with us while we were there). I had to go back to my home state for work (teaching), but, due to the death of a dear young friend and the fact that the climate for teachers in my home state has gone downhill rapidly (and, to be honset, I was MISERABLE…not with my job, but with some of the working conditions and some of my colleagues), I decided to sell my house, retire, and move to the state where my Fiance lives.
Since the economic climate in my hone state was terrible and my 3 college grad kids had no luck finding jobs, we all decided to move together to our new home (I have a 4th child who came with us, but who will be going back to the homestate to complete college). I sold my home in my home state and moved 5 days before Christmas in 2014.
I decided that I was not going to go back to my former career so I started working at a local theme park in Janaury and hated it! I lasted 3 months…lol. However, I was pretty happy overall except that I wanted out of my job at the theme park and wanted to go to a different department. Since that seemed easier said than done, I decided to go back to teaching. I subbed at a local charter school to make certain that I wanted to teach again (I missed the kids!).
Since then I have gotten my teaching certifications transferred to my new state, have received and just started a new job teaching K-1 special ed (I was a high school special ed teacher before). The principal and assistant principal are really nice as are the coworkers I have met thus far. HOwever, Since straring back in the new district, I have been extremely homesick to the point where I cry almost every night.
As far as my fiance goes, he and I have been getting along wonderfully for the most part, except that he is retired and he doesn’t seem to understand that I have a lot of work to do to get ready for my new position and can’t spend the time just hanging out with him the way I did all summer. We have had a few arguments, but nothing that hasn;t worked itself out. However, one of the reasons why I moved tothis new state is because he refused to move to my home state (can’t say that I blame him…going from sub-tropical to a state with 4 seasons is rough in winter, fall, and most of spring).
I’m trying to figure out why I am so miserable. I have spent every summer in my new state since I was a child because my late grandmother lived here and we visited her. I also used to own a rental property that my family used every summer when I had my own kids, I spent my first marriage, which was a great one, with my late husband in my home state, but had not lived on the town where we lived together since he passed away 13 years ago. I don’t know if the problem is that I’m overwhelmend with the new position, all of the changes are just catching up to me, I miss my friends, or I feel guily leaving my late husband 1200 miles away (he’s buried in my family’s plot). Granted, I spent the first 51 years of my life in my home state, but I really had nothing else holding me there so I don’t understand why this is bothering me so much.
I am so homesick that my Fiance has decided that we may go back to my home state and live there during the summer and come back here so I can teach during the year, but there has got to be a better way to get over being so homesick. It is getting to the point where I’m having trouble getting out of bed ion the morning and all I do is cry myself to sleep at night. I also tend to focus on any news that comes from my home state and look to see if there are any afforable houses in my former town that I could afford to buy. I continuously compare my old high school position to my new elementary job. I recently flew back to my home state to attend the graduation of the last high school class that I taught and I fell apart when I got home.
Do any of you Bees have any advice as to how I can get over being so homesick? If you ever felt this way, what did you do to get over it? I’m afraid that I will become severely depressed and will not be able to function or do my job.