Post # 1
I’m not usually one to complain on here, but man, I am really having a rough day/night and I need a hug.
I am literally sitting here in tears drinking hot tea. I resigned my job today after accepting a new position – I know I made the right choice for me, but I feel like such a failure right now. I quit a job I was really, really good at to take this job, and my old boss even told me I would hate it and wouldn’t last, and I guess he was right. 8 months in, I quit. Now they want to sit down with me tomorrow, and I know they want to know why I quit, which is pretty much going to require me to throw someone under the bus, which makes me sick to my stomach.
I hate letting people down, I hate failing, and I hate feeling like I am a disappointment.
To make matters worse, I am sitting here alone, and even though my husband is trying his best, I wish he was here so much.
I guess that’s all. Whining over. Thanks for reading.
Post # 4
@Linz1231: *HUGE HUG* it’ll be ok dear, you are not a failure- in fact you did something powerful by leaving and doing whats best for you- to me, thats a success
Post # 5
awww!!! HUG! 🙂 itll be okay. you are not throwing someone under the bus… you are telling the truth and being an honest good person. and you are not a failure!! dont feel bad! you will find another job that will be good for you and that you will be good at too! 🙂
Post # 6
* BIG HUGS * Don’t worry yourself sick, you’re doing what’s best for you. You aren’t a failure…is there any way to give feedback without diming someone out?
Post # 7
However, I think if you accepted a new position, you could just as easily leave it at a basic “I found another job that I felt would be a good move for where I am in my life right now” is explanation enough. You don’t have to say that where you are in life is pissed right off at another employee.
I obviously don’t know all the details but I just think it’s a good idea to keep it on the high road, and not burn bridges, which is sometimes what “throwing someone under the bus” comes down to.
Post # 8
Oh no no no. I’m sure you are not failure! I mean that sincerely!
Lots of internet hugs for you! I know for me, failure is one of the most devestating feelings I can experience. I hate the feeling of “I just couldn’t do it.”
Chin up! Remember that you have new opportunity waiting for you? Remember how exciting fresh starts can be?
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
It sounds like you’ve done the right thing – just remember the reason why you left, and stay strong! Big hugs – thinking of you!
Post # 10
@SapphireSun: That would be the ideal situation, and that is why I said in my resignation letter, but there have been issues other employees have brought to their attention, and have been building and building – some small, some major and likely illegal, definitely not ethical. I just know I will be asked point blank about things. I would never intentionally throw someone under the bus.
Post # 11
Don’t let it get to you. You have to do what’s best for you in the end. No point staying in a job that’s making you miserable. Good luck with your talk with the boss. Is there any way you can focus on the new position, that you found this other job that is better suited to your skills/area of interest/has better potential for advancement and so you thought you’d try for it? I would try to emphasize how appealing the new job was and downplay why you’re leaving. Hopefully this new job will be totally perfect and the one you’re leaving won’t matter in the long run, but it’s always best not to burn bridges. You have to stay focused on the positive — good luck in your new position! 🙂
Post # 12
@Linz1231: ugh, I get now why you’d feel more like you’re facing down an interrogation. Even bigger hugs to you 🙂
Post # 13
**hugs** I hope you feel better. As Bella said, doing what is best and most healthy for you is a success, and even though your discussion with the bosses may be uncomfortable, you are doing what’s best for you.
Post # 14
(((Hugs))))! You absolutely don’t owe them any explanation of why you are leaving. That is really inappropriate that they would sit you down and make you tell why you are leaving. You just have a better opportunity, end of conversation.
Post # 15
@sparkles_10: That’s how I am going to try to approach it. It’s all true – I did get a better job, better hours, better pay, better insurance, more vacation etc. I am just going to focus on that.
Post # 16
I’m sending a bunch of HUGS your way!