Post # 17
Don’t take so much responsibility on yourself. There are a lot of politically correct phrases for use in just this type of situation, nobody has to get metaphorically thrown under a bus. Read up on resignation letters and exit interviews. Read samples to get ideas and write down what it is you want to say. Don’t make a script, but write it down, walk away from it, then read it again in the morning. Hugs, and feel better!
Post # 18
Thanks for all of your kind words last night. I really needed them, and they did truly make me feel better. I am feeling a little better today, I slept in and Skyped with my hubby for a while last night.
I have never been a very decisive/impulsive person. I have always been a thinker, more so than a feeler. I know in my heart this decision is going to be fantastic for me and my future, so I am trying not to second guess myself.
Post # 19
((((hugs))))) Sunshine next time call me!!!!! You’re making a terrific move, it just sucks to feel like you’re letting someone down (when you’re not!). I totally get how you feel. Keep focusing on the light at the end of the tunnel. You’re not a failure in any way! You’ve done great work where you are, but you can’t be in a job where there is so much ridiculous-ness going on! It’s time to move forward and upward! 🙂
Post # 20
Hugs!! You made the right decision for you and in a couple of days you will feel much better! Do you have to throw someone under the bus? Or can you just say..you know, I didn’t get along with someone, but I would rather not mention names, etc etc.
Post # 21
(((hugs))) Sounds like you made the right decision, even if it was a hard one. Hopefully soon you’ll be able to put it behind you!
I am also curious about @MrsCoachBtoBee’s suggestion…when I left, I was able to vaguely suggest there were some higher-ups whose principles differed from mine, and that that was a factor in my leaving, but I didn’t name names and they didn’t really push me to. Might you be able to sugar-coat it a little bit, or just anonymize it? You do have to be honest, though; I know that’s hard but you don’t want to burn bridges if you can help it!
Post # 22
@Linz1231: That sucks so bad! ::hugs::
Post # 23
All of your suggestions are great, but the store I work in has three employees, including myself, so being vague isn’t possible.
Update is this: my sit down has been moved to Thursday, and now they are inviting the person who 99% of my complaints are about to the meeting. Seriously, I can’t make this stuff up. LOL.
At this point, I am responding to their email, informing them that I am declining to sit down with them. I don’t HAVE to sit down with them, do I? Nothing in any paperwork requires me to have an exit interview, and I already emailed them over copies of all of my files.
DH suggests I play like Dave Chappelle, and plead the fifth on everything. Haha, he is so silly. He was just trying to make me laugh, and it worked! Watch this clip and see what I mean.
Post # 24
Thinking of you and wondering how you are doing. HUGS!!!!
Post # 25
OMG, I’m cracking up over that Dave Chapelle skit!! What a good hubby for making you laugh. 🙂
In all seriousness though, no words of wisdom, just wishing you good luck.
Post # 26
Awe *Hugs* hopefully they won’t require to have that sit down with them and then you can avoid this whole situation.
Post # 27
Basically where I am at now, I am telling them that I am no longer interested in sitting down with them anymore, and if that is a deal breaker for my two week notice, then I can start my new job on Monday.
Post # 28
Oooooh!!! I hope you are feeling better and things improve soon. So sorry you’re having to go through this :/ How uncomfortable and tough.
At least you know your new job will be amazing, so just stay focused on that!
(And… no I don’t think you have any obligation what so ever to have an exit interview/sit down with them.. you are gone and done!)
Post # 29
Ugh are you kidding me? They wanted to invite the person who you’re having your issues with? Do you think they know that’s the reason you’re leaving?
Definitely decline the sit down with them. Exit interviews are never mandatory, and just let them know that you don’t feel comfortable and the resignation is non-negotiable.