(Closed) I need a new BM! Which one do I ask?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who do I ask?
    FSIL : (18 votes)
    69 %
    Friend : (0 votes)
    No one : (8 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
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    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I voted for Future Sister-In-Law only because she seems most likely to jump on it. Since she is already invested in your day, she’ll get on the ball about getting the dress and following up on the details. She just seems the most drama free. And I don’t think it will be a big deal at all that someone else will escort her.

    Post # 4
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    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    id say ask your Future Sister-In-Law. it sounds like you two are becoming close and that you get along great! i dont think its weird that she wouldn’t be walking with her husband. just ask her if she’s ok with it. if she is, then you’re good to go!

    Post # 6
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    256 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would say don’t ask anyone and leave the numbers uneven. I only say that because like you pointed out, it’s only two months away. But if you want to ask someone and don’t want to have numbers uneven then ask your Future Sister-In-Law.

    Post # 7
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    622 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i voted for your Future Sister-In-Law. it seems like you have started to really grow that relationship and she would want to be there for you. plus she’s guaranteed to be in your life now that you’re joining the family. i also don’t think it’s weird that she wouldn’t be walking with her husband. good luck!

    Post # 8
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    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Personally, I wouldn’t ask anyone this close to the wedding.  They’re going to know they were a last-minute pick and that kind of s*cks.

    That said, I don’t think it matters if she walks with someone different.  My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and her fiance is in our wedding as a Groomsmen.  He’s walking with my little cousin and my sister’s walking with Best Man (FI’s brother)  NBD.

    Post # 9
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    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I really don’t think it’ll be weird. It’s just a short walk down an aisle. I am not sure why your Fiance is so opposed… that baffles me lol. I would definitely choose Future Sister-In-Law 🙂

    Post # 10
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    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    maybe if you, your Fiance, your FI’s brother, and his wife all sit down and talk about it, he wouldn’t be so weirded out. alot of people have their future in-laws in their wedding parties. happens all the time. 🙂 sometimes guys are a little off when it comes to wedding planning but you do still need to respect his wishes for the wedding also. its his day too. like i said. i think if the 4 of you all sit down and discuss it, it most likely wont be an issue.

    Post # 11
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    2475 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t think you should ask anyone this close to the wedding.  I think it’s awkward to be asked as basically a “stand-in” or “runner-up”.  There’s nothing wrong with uneven numbers.

    Post # 12
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    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    My sister and her husband were both in my wedding. She was MOH and he was a GM so they didn’t walk together, but they didn’t mind! They had to walk apart from eachother for about 30 seconds and then they were able to spend the rest of the day together. No biggie.

    @hotchild- my BIL (sisters hub) walked with my little cousin and my sister walked with my husband’s brother too!

    Post # 14
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    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @wifeywife: haha.  That’s so funny.  My sister is actually a little nervous about being taller than FBIL!

    Post # 15
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    1230 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I agree with soontobewalsh. Since it’s so close to your wedding date, I think you shouldn’t ask anyone and just leave it uneven. However, if you do not feel comfortable leaving it uneven and you really want to ask somebody, then I would ask your Future Sister-In-Law. It sounds like you guys are pretty close and I don’t it would be weird having someone other than her husband walk with her.

    Post # 16
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    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    hotchild- haha oh no! My sister is 4’11” So I wasn’t worried about her, but one of my bm’s ended up being about an inch taller than her gm b/c she wore HUGE heels. No one noticed as far as I know though…

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