(Closed) I need advice!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

my guy and I have been together for over 12 years and 2 kids,, I feel like he is doing the wedding to make me happy he realy could care less about the paper. He truley enjoys how happy I am about the wedding and says im such a dork. Maybe hes the same way, as long as its a happy time and not a I have to do this realy? I think your good. Maybe ask him do you want me to do the planning? and keep the things and choices for him to just a few.. Good luck and congratts

Post # 4
2634 posts
Sugar bee

Some men just aren’t INTO wedding planning.  I’d ask him straight up “Hey Fiance is this something you want me to do myself or are you interested in helping me. Please understand I won’t be hurt by whatever you say, but we need to get the ball rolling on this stuff”.

Post # 5
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

from an outsiders quick view it does look like he’s just not into getting married.  If he wanted to it’d be done by now (obiviously since you’re more than willing to plan everything).  Let him know that planning and going through with the wedding is what you want.  Ask him what is stopping him from committing?  is it money? stress? family life? experience?  There has to be something other than his laziness!

Post # 6
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

There is a possibility that yes, he does not want to get married. But I think a lot of men go through that in the begininng because the looming planning is nothing a guy likes to do. And months upon months of it … they probably rather eat glass.

My Fiance and myself have been together over 4 years and have a child together. He has made it very clear that he is ready to get married. But I was doubtful at first when I began the planning. It was a huff and puff and complete disinterest. I was really confused and kind of hurt by this. He seemed to notice and finaly told me flat out something along the lines of, “I would love nothing more than to marry you and leave YOU to planning the wedding. Its just not my thing” Haha. To him, he compares it to fashion. He is like, “What the hell do I know about any of this?! I can help with opinions on the basics. Color, theme, place, food, ect. But anything else I just dont get it. I have no idea what you are talking about half of the time. But I trust that you do so go for it!”

Post # 7
43 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ya, from an outsider, it kind of seems like hes just not into it. But is it the MARRIAGE or the WEDDDING that he’s not into? Talk to him. Be prepared for an answer you’re not going to like and if it does turn out badly, well at least you dont have to worry about this situation anymore. Honestly, I understand guys not wanting to deal with every detail, but I think they should be a part of the planning process because this is the step into your future that represents full commitment. If my fiance didnt want anything to do with it, I would be upset too. You should ask him straight up how he feels. I know thats easier said than done…but isnt it easier than trying to plan a wedding and getting shut down all the time? Good luck !

The topic ‘I need advice!!!!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors