(Closed) I need advice about work (nwr)

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You know what? I’ve been in your position and it sucks but some bosses are a**holes and you’re not going to change that by saying anything. Your boss’s approach sucks, but you just said yourself – there are favorites and you aren’t one of them. That happens. It’s not going anywhere. Believe me, I know exactly how you feel, but unless there is a really blatant HR violation going on, which in this instance there isn’t (you just don’t like your boss’s approach/managerial style/tone) you just have to suck it up.

Post # 4
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i’m sorry your boss is being so condescending – that doesn’t sound like fun at all. i would NOT recommend going above her head to talk to her boss. the only thing that can come out of that is her being more angry towards you and more unwanted drama. as much as it sucks, you should probably request a one-on-one meeting with her and just say something along the lines of, “i feel like you think i’m not meeting expectations. i want to make sure we’re on the same page of what you expect out of me because i feel that other people think i’m on track.” on top of that, i would keep her in the loop on literally EVERYTHING you’re doing. copy her on all emails, call her to give her updates, etc. etc. i’ve been through this situation once with an old boss, and the more i inundated him with information on how much i was actually doing, the less he talked to me about my progress. good luck!!

Post # 5
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can I say something? It sounded like one of those work situations where poop rolls downhill. She probably got into trouble on a higher level for something and is making a show (by making you look like a fool in front of your coworkers) to cover her mistake – maybe she’s not analyzing those reports, or worse not even knowing how to? You sound like a force to be reckoned with (23 and masters?? Good for you!!). That could intimidate anyone.

Keep your head up!

Post # 8
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That sucks, I’m sorry your boss is so hostile.  I have a similar situation.  My boss sooooo dislikes me, and makes it apparent.  There’s a long story to it, I won’t bore you with it.  Anyway, I’ve learned to just ignore it all.  Its one of the hardest lessons I’ve ever learned!  Its nearly impossible at first, its like literally giving away your pride.  She’ll be rude, or do something so unprofessional and I just have to take it.  I am not interested in adding anymore fuel to the fire.  Ugh, I hate it here….

Post # 9
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@pieceacake – Well I hope that things go well when you meet with her! You should prepare yourself for the possibility that it won’t, though. This woman sounds like she isn’t the type to respond well to any sort of criticism so you’ll have to be really careful how you phrase things. And OMG don’t cry! If you cry, she wins. Also you’ll forever be “that girl who cries” and nobody wants that in their professional life.

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